amerikajin Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Okay, some of you know my situation right now (the dating adventures of Amerikajin never seem to end, do they?) Anyway...there's this bombshell that I've been courting at the office here the last couple of weeks. I swear, I was doing everything right until about two days ago - well, that's how I feel anyway. So we go out and finally have coffee together, which actually more or less turned into dinner together. I think she really enjoyed that date and said yes to another one next monday. Here's the deal: I see this chick at work all the time. I actually try not to, but I do. At the same time, I don't want her to think I'm avoiding her, but whenever I approach her now I keep the conversation short - and I fear it's getting too artificial. I'm nervous. I can't help it. I think I'd be okay on our date but the whole work thing makes me a bit sketchy. I don't want to hang around her too much and draw attention to us, but I don't want her to think I'm avoiding her either. And I could use a few tips for conversation, too. I caught myself coming up with the same old 'How's it goin?' crap today and commenting about her nice new shirt. Beautiful women be damned...you turn my mind to mush!
lindya Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 This sounds exciting! I think your instinct to keep conversations at work quite brief sounds right. You just have to measure that combination of short and professional, with a hint of flirtation. As you're finishing the discussion and saying "talk to you later" or however you end it, flash her a brief and mischievous "you and I have a secret" smile. Keeps the electricity dancing around without making a huge issue out of the fact that the two of you have started to date.
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Male hormones increase spatial skills but decrease verbal skills. Female hormones do the opposite. So my advice is to let her do the talking. And try consciously to calm down. If that's still possible
Blackard Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Okay, some of you know my situation right now (the dating adventures of Amerikajin never seem to end, do they?) Its not that. Its that your dic has a smaller head, therefor a small brain...so when that head takes over... ;p Here's the deal: I see this chick at work all the time. I actually try not to, but I do. At the same time, I don't want her to think I'm avoiding her, but whenever I approach her now I keep the conversation short - and I fear it's getting too artificial. I'm nervous. I can't help it. I think I'd be okay on our date but the whole work thing makes me a bit sketchy. I don't want to hang around her too much and draw attention to us, but See, here ya go. You sound like an insane person right now...and why? Because she is nice looking? So what. There a millions of them around. She is still just a woman, and in a month or so, after you have gotten laid a few times, seen how messy she leaves her bathroom, learned her annoying little habits, she will not be so special then, will she. ;p Relax. I've read your posts. You know the game. Talk to her as if you are not a starving man watching someone eat a steak through a frost covered window. Pretend she is just a person, not a hunk of meat. Get to know HER. Be friendly to her. Hell, that will prolly be a pleasant surprise to her also. ;p 1
BlahBlahQueen Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Male hormones increase spatial skills but decrease verbal skills. Female hormones do the opposite. More proof still that I am actually a man. I'm starting to get worried. The same thing happens to me. When my love/lust whoremones are flying, I can only admire what I see and hear... as my left brain turns to mush.
BlahBlahQueen Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 How to treat her at work? Easy. Slip her a surreptitious flirty comment here and there. That way she'll know that you're not trying to clumsily fake uninterest, but are merely trying to keep it kosher at the workplace.
cygny Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 at work be fun. don't be too earnest about things because that gets heavy on a daily basis. approach it with a somewhat breezy and always lighthearted attitude. keep the ball in the air, so to speak. don't spend much time talking to her at work or you'll have less to talk about on the date.
alphamale Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Anyway...there's this bombshell that I've been courting at the office you know you should not date women you work with AMERIKAJIN
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 More proof still that I am actually a man. I'm starting to get worried. :lmao:
Author amerikajin Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 you know you should not date women you work with AMERIKAJIN I knew that...until she lowered my IQ by 50 points. Actually, I have been thinking that it's not a good idea even now, but I feel like a moth to a flame. Even so, I'm trying to keep a good perspective on things. I am trying to get my life in order and focus on long-term goals, and I don't know if I even have time to accommodate a relationship at the moment. Funny how that when you start focussing on yourself that's the time that a relationship comes out of nowhere. Not that it has yet in my case, but that would be just my luck...getting into a complicated relationship at a time when I'm least able to deal with it.
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