Dave81 Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Hello All, It's been a week since i've talked to my ex after our breakup. Today though, I broke down and called her. I don't know if I should have or not. She didn't answer, and I didn't leave a voicemail. I just wanted to know how things were going with her. Sometimes I find myself very weak when I think about her, and today was one of those days. Also, I found out a few days ago that she is seeing someone else, and she wants nothing else to do with me. This is the part that really hurts me: After 2-1/2 years of being together, living together, and sharing everything, it seems like she hates me. How has she moved on so quickly? We had discussed staying in touch, and being friends, but now there is nothing!! NC for a week, and it doesn't seem like she will ever call me or drop me an e-mail again. She still has most of her stuff here, as she is staying with friends right now. My friends and family say I should just get rid of it, but I don't want to be mean or spiteful. She has a dorm on campus at the local college, so I know that she does not have much room for her things. I care for her very much, even after finding out that she has moved on so quickly, but seeing her things is a constant reminder of us, and it's killing me!!! At the same time, I want to be friends with her, as losing her as a friend would also hurt me. Any Advice?? Dave81
jacked17 Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 I think you trying to be friends with ur ex will be way too hard especially when they're out dating and you're being their friend who will no doubt hear about it. I tried doing the friend thing with my ex hoping she'd burn out of the guy she was dating. It never happened and they got closer. She really hurt me by telling me about how they hooked up and it just broke my heart to hear all of that leading to me almost having a nervous breakdown. I would suggest NC because that's probably the only thing that has made me sane. Avoid running into her and talking to her until your strong. I mean be friends that's all fine and good but just wait. I mean I guarantee you if you called her in 6 months or a year she'll still remember who you are.
bluechocolate Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 .....but seeing her things is a constant reminder of us, and it's killing me!!! Text or email her that you want her stuff out by such & such a date or it's going in the trash. Seriously. That is not being mean or spiteful, you have no obligation to store her stuff & she knows that, so do you. You cannot be friends with her right now. That cannot happen until you're over the break up & comfortable with the fact that a reconciliation is not possible. Only then will you be able to be friends. Chances are when that emotional detachment happens you won't be interested in being friends with her anyway.
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