Feeling unsupported and taken for granted by my husband

[LunaHaven]

Recently, our 6-month-old was hospitalized with RSV. We stayed from Sunday to Tuesday, and while my husband did go home to handle work and the dogs (which I appreciate), when he was at the hospital he was no help. He spent most of the time on his phone or sleeping, complained about being uncomfortable, and never once offered to hold the baby so I could rest. I ended up exhausted, unshowered, and sitting upright with the baby on me the whole time, while he laid across the couch.

This isn’t the first time I’ve felt this way. In the past, he’s been dismissive when I’ve needed support, and I often feel like everything falls on me while he focuses on his own comfort. I feel like I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t even want to be around him anymore.

I love him and want our marriage to work, but I don’t know how to move forward when I feel this taken for granted. Am I expecting too much? How do I bring this up without it becoming another fight? Has anyone else dealt with this kind of imbalance?

[glows]

unfortunately I have. I’m sorry this is happening and hope the baby is okay. Did you communicate clearly that you want him to hold the baby so that you can sleep or rest? How did he respond?

Edited September 10 by glows