3 Months dating and she won't kiss me

[az_cot]

Hello,

There's a woman I met in church several years ago that I had been interested in.  We always had good conversation's with each other and I always wanted to ask her out but was a little hesitate because I was afraid of being rejected by her.  She was also going through some person things in her life so I thought the timing wasn't good either but I always messaged her to check to see how she was doing.   Well one day when I reached out to her to check in on her and we had a good communication.  She hinted if I wanted to hang out with her to let her know and I jumped at the chance and asked her out.  Well the first date went really well as we went to a concert in the park.  When I took her home I walked her to her door and she gave me a hug and went inside.  Now I didn't expect a kiss on the first date so I brushed that off.  Since our first date we have been going out regularly and communicating very often.  3 months into dating she still won't kiss me.  Not even a check kiss.  I am thinking what is up with that.  She hasn't even invited me inside her place.  I am thinking that she just doesn't want a physical relationship which is why she doesn't invite me inside but not even a kiss goodbye.  The most I get is the quick pat hug and she rushes inside.  I really don't know what to make of this as I have never experienced this in my life.  We are both in our mid 50's so I would think we are well pass that teenage awkwardness of dating.  I am use to being a relationship where we are affectionate with each other with kissing, hand holding, and hugging but I am barely getting the hand holding and hugs.  Am I making too much of big deal of this?  I appreciate any responses on this.

[Gebidozo]

I don’t quite understand, did you try to kiss her on the lips and she turned away or otherwise avoided the kiss?

If so, then of course she isn’t interested in you romantically. 

 

 

[az_cot]

Yes I did try to kiss her after the 2nd Month of dating but she subtly avoided it.

[Gebidozo]

Just now, az_cot said:

Yes I did try to kiss her after the 2nd Month of dating but she subtly avoided it.

I don’t know why you waited for such a long time to attempt a kiss, but either way, she made it clear you were just buddies.

[glows]

Nooo I’m afraid I agree with the above. I don’t think you’re dating Op 

Do you mind me asking what led you to believe you were dating? Have you both had any intimate conversations? Was there any discussion about exclusivity or being in a relationship?

[az_cot]

1 hour ago, glows said:

Nooo I’m afraid I agree with the above. I don’t think you’re dating Op 

Do you mind me asking what led you to believe you were dating? Have you both had any intimate conversations? Was there any discussion about exclusivity or being in a relationship?

The amount of times we have been out for 3 months.  I was going to talk to her about exclusivity.  I think it is the time to clear up where and who we are to each other.

[Alpacalia]

After three months of consistent dating, most people would anticipate some level of physical affection so she is either not viewing this as dating or she has too many walls up and neither are good. I would bring it up but don't lead with the not kissing part but rather to understand where she is at. I wouldn't try escalating any more physical affection given she's already brushed you off.

 

[S2B]

She’s not that into you. Any gal totally I to a man WANTS to kiss him and get physical. 
the fact that she’s avoiding it is showing she doesn’t intend for this to be anything further than being her buddy.

if it’s romance you want - date someone else.

[glows]

Seems a bit late for that and clear this isn’t romantic. If you feel it’s not too out of place you can ask per your last post. That’s up to you but it would appear left field or inappropriate tbh. Ie not reading the room

I think most might assume you’re just buddies already and nothing else. And why keep seeing her (if you have romantic feelings) and she won’t kiss you? The thing to do would be to just stop seeing her altogether and not ask her out anymore.