Is he into me?

[Guy456]

Hello All,

I stumbled onto this site today and kinda need some advice. I(31 male) have a friend(32) male who I have known close to a decade. Over the years he has done and said things that made me question his sexuality. For example, he told me out of the blue one day that if he was gay it would be his deepest darkest secret. Another time he and another friend slept in the same bed together even though there was a couch available that pulled out into a bed. I told him earlier this year that I was into guys and less than a month later he asked if I wanted to move to a new city together for a fresh start. Later on he made a joke about how I am when I'm being flirted with and I replied that I wouldn't know as I have been flirted with in a long time. He gave me this really intense look and said maybe you don't know when you're being flirted with. Lastly he tried to hold my hand in a way that could have been played off as a joke but didn't feel like one because of how tenderly he did it and the smile he gave me when he did. All of that sounds like he's into me, but his words don't really match his actions. He has consistently claimed over the years that he is straight and gets defensive about it anytime the subject has been brought up. I know that his Dad has been a controlling influence in his life. But I honestly don't know... what do you all think?

[glows]

What matters is what he thinks. He thinks and says he’s not gay then he’s not gay and you have to respect that.

if it’s too difficult for you then take a step back and don’t talk to him or hangout that often.