yaya5 Posted September 6 Posted September 6 Hi. My girlfriend and I started college a little over 2 weeks ago. It's been pretty rough on me. Lots of stress with social situations and stuff. When I am in social situations with her I am generally miserable and kind of struggle to look a way other than miserable. Today she admitted that she is getting frustrated by it, and that because of it the past couple weeks have been really tough and she's felt a strain on our relationship. We hugged and said I love you and I told her some of my ideas on how to make it better. After I told her the ideas, she still seemed pretty sad. I asked if that sounded good to her and she said something along the lines of "I don't know, I guess so." We said I love you again and when I asked if I'd see her tomorrow she said yes. She went to her dorm and that was that. For a tiny bit more relevant context, a few days ago we had an issue that basically involved her admitting something to me. She said she was afraid to tell me because she was worried I'd break up with her over it. She said she was so afraid of losing me and she couldn't live without me. I believe her to be telling the truth in this. It's just giving me conflicted signals now that tonight it seemed liek she was thinking maybe things are not going to work out. You can also look at my previous post for a bit more context. Is this kind of normal for a run-of-the-mill rough patch? If I actually follow through on what I told her I'd do (which she agreed if followed through on would make things better) will it be alright?
ShyViolet Posted September 6 Posted September 6 I asked this question in your other thread, which you did not answer, and I'll ask it here too. What are you doing to treat your mental health issues? You clearly have a lot of anxiety and mental health struggles, and it's not clear whether you are doing anything about it. It must be very draining on a partner to be with someone who has all these problems and isn't getting help for it. She probably is getting tired of it and it is possible that she'll reach a point where she feels she's had enough. Are you in therapy? 1
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