wheezy002 Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 Ok, i have been reasonably successful with females, im a little embarassed having to post this on here but oh well here it goes. about 2 years ago I became friends with this beautiful girl, at the time i wasnt very experienced, so i saved myself embarassment and never made a move on this girl, however i became fascinated with her. anyway we became pretty close, then i went away to school. she started seeing an old boyfriend. i got really jealous, but never told her. she never really rubbed it in or anything, rarely brought up his name, i never was even in the same room as him. anyway after a couple months i said some things i shouldnt have. we didnt talk for months until a couple nights ago i saw her at a bar, she said she just rwecently stopped seeing her boyfriend, we talked, i said i was pretty hurt that she didnt return my calls, i came clean (well almost), i i told her i cared about her a lot, that ive been worried about her, lots of compliments, friendly touching grabbed my biceps about 5 times (lol) we had a good heart to heart conversation she said she wanted 2 take my keys and give me a ride back the next day, i said it was alright, she asked what i was doing the next day and said she wanted to hang out. she didnt call i called the next day, so i called her the day after she called me back later we made plans to see each other in the afternoon, then she called back said she was going home to shower etc. later on after that i called back, she made it seem like it was the 1st call, you know asking oh what are you going to do tonight. i thought we had plans, i guess not. anyway, im really attracted to her, other girls dont have personalities like hers. i want to know should i take her out on a date? is it too late for that? should i try to be friends again? should I just leave her alone and let her call me? people at the bar seemed to think we were an item, one dude remarked to me when he was talking to her "hey whatsup, dont worry about me im just a friend". thanks for any help in advance
gfto Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 I'd say call her and make a specific date. For example, just call and say, "hey, want to go out for dinner at (fill in a restaurant) Wednesday night?" Then, zip it. Listen to her response. If she says "sure" without any hestitation, then tell her you'll pick her up at 7:00, then get off the phone. No communication until the actual date. Keep it light and funny at dinner. Don't tell her how you feel about her or any of that nonsense. When you take her home, walk her to the door and go for the kiss. If it lands on her lips, you might have a chance. If it lands on her cheek, you're out. Simple as that. If, on the other hand, she hems and haws around your invitation and doesn't make a counteroffer, then she isn't interested. Make some polite small talk for another 30 seconds, then get off the phone, and don't call her anymore.
EMJ Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 She's not interested. Not at all. There's no sign of it. You already let her know you are interested and she has not stepped up. She does not want to hurt your feeings, but you might need it if you refuse take this VERY strong hint. Being friendly means nothing, it's just good manners. You are blowing these little tiny things "she touched my arm 5 times" way out of proportion. The fact that she wanted to take your keys means the thought you were too drunk to drive. You never made a date and she is not taking you seriously. She's avoiding your calls. You wont see it. She's not interested in you that way and she won't even want to know you as a friend if you don't stop it. Nobody really enjoys a "friend" when she knows he really wants more. It gets very tiring and you waste a lot of time hoping and waiting. Go ahead and ask her on a date, say it's a date and that you still are interested. You are going to learn the hard way and it looks like that may be waht you need to get it. A woman interested in a man never makes excuses. You have a crush on her and it's completely one sided- yours. Beautiful or even just attractive women get approached by men EVERY single day, several times often. She becomes very good at deflecting unwanted attempts without crushing the man. But she may have to if he does not see that she isn't interested in him that way. Sorry, this is a one sided crush, not a romantic relationship. I don't see her reciprocating anywhere here.
Yamaha Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 she didn't call i called the next day, so i called her the day after she called me back later we made plans to see each other in the afternoon, then she called back said she was going home to shower etc. later on after that i called back, she made it seem like it was the 1st call, you know asking oh what are you going to do tonight. i thought we had plans, i guess not You need to leave her alone. It is for your own good. Accept that she doesn't feel that way and do not continue a friendship with her. It will be easier on you in the long run.
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