curiousnycgirl Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 For those of you who are interested, but had not read my long post - here is a link: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t78767/ I want to thank you guys - espeically Johann and Pendawn - your input was invaluable. I had a long Yahoo im session with my b/f last week - I was too chicken and too upset to actually discuss it directly - as I was crying through most of it. I laid it out for him - how disappointed I was in the way things were going, and how I thought we needed to end it, since it was not working for me, etc. I recognized, before I communicated with him, that my disappointment had nothing to do with money - it was really all about lack of intimacy and emotional support. I laid it out for him - that I felt he had been pushing me away since the fall and that I could not continue as it made me feel unwanted and taken advantage of etc. He was surprised - and has since acknowledged that now that he is paying more attention to being close that indeed he had been pushing me away. He also took the opportunity to let me know some things that I had done that upset him - which is totally fair. Overall it went well and the results are speaking for themselves. I have advised him that it needs to be sustained over the long haul, if he hopes to actually maintain this relationship. I just wanted to let you guys know how much I appreciate your input and support - now it is up to b/f and I to make it work, and part of that is not bottling up our resentments and maintaining open communication!!!!! Thank you and wish us luck!
Pendawn Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 That's great news! So glad to hear you were able to talk it through together and he reacted in a positive way! Good for you both, I hope it works out long term.
Author curiousnycgirl Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 Pendawn - Me too! I've certainly learned something here - I need to stop being so protective of my emotions and speak up when things first start bothering me - not let them all build up. Otherwise how is he supposed to know?! I really appreciate all your help and sound words of advice. Thx, Curious
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