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I cheated when I was younger, now I have this weird fetish...

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When I was younger and dumb I cheated on a girlfriend, and now that im older I have fetish for revenge type sexual fantasies(Go figure!). The ones I really like are, I like it when a girl gets back at a cheater by doing something to his car, like keying it, sugar in gas tank, spray paint, any kind of vandalism is really hot to me. Another thing I just found the other day that really turned me was this horror movie short I seen on Youtube. It was called "Emptied" and it was about this guy who cheated on his girlfriend, but she was a dentist. So he went to see her, and she puts him to sleep and pulls all this teeth out, and you can tell she is really enjoying herself! I love seeing when cheaters get what they deserve. I get butterflies in my tummy thinking about these things. Another one thats not as extreme is from the movie "The Other Women" there is a part where there is like this prank payback montage of the the girl getting back at her cheating husband, and she puts hormones in his drink, dips his toothbrush in the toilet, and hair remover in his shampoo... I guess these things are supposed to be funny to other folks, but to me they turn me on! Anyone else like this kind of idea? I guess im just wondering why i get off to this so much. I really love the emotional aspect of it all, and seeing people getting the comeuppance and humiliation they deserve.

Are Fetish and kinks like this bad? Sometimes I feel bad after getting off to these thoughts, and think maybe something is wrong with me.

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A lot of folks enjoy humiliation in the form of sex play.

Humiliation kinks are real and not uncommon.

Maybe because you’ve experienced or caused emotional pain in the past (like cheating), these fantasies serve as some kind of emotional reckoning or symbolic self-punishment.

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Fetishes are normal. However a fetish about things like vandalism and stuff like damaging a person's vehicle or property is a complete no no and borders on being a crime.

Safer fetishes are more the way to go. Things like a woman fantasizing about giving blowjobs to a younger man.........or an older man wanting to go down on a younger woman. Things like that.

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Fetishes are weird. I'm not expert I just find them interesting but it seems to me that apart from body stuff like foot fetishes the more behaviour based ones are usually based on control, or lack of it. So if you are into BDSM or even lower level stuff like handcuffs it turns you on that you completely at the mercy of the other person.

Maybe in this case you've attached something sexual to the anger and unpredictability of a scorned girlfriend. I don't think there's necessarily anything bad about it unless you feel maybe its a trauma response or you end up behaving in an unhealthy way because of it like cheating on future partners deliberately just to get this reaction.

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Fetishes can be an emotional struggle because the fetish is what makes you sexually aroused. You may find a normal sex life rather boring and can affect your relationships. People either live a double life and find refuge out side the relationship, or end up having a solitary life if the fetish takes over, or if you are lucky, you find someone who relishes in the same fetish. 

Since yours has started to escalate to getting very aroused by violent acts such as the teeth pulling maybe it's time to see a therapist to discuss this with them. I'm not saying it's wrong to enjoy a fantasy, or kink. I say whatever floats your boat BUT when it comes to the cruelty....that could lead to disturbing behaviour down the road. 

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I sort of have a weird fetish about when people pretend to be another person online and it's obvious to me but not so many other people, including those who want to try to help the person, and then I see the person who was pretending to be another person isn't there anymore because someone with more buttons than they do pressed one of them.

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I dont think I would ever act on any of my fetishes besides from of course watching movies and stuff with those kind of scenes in them. I just have this feeling like I need to be punished for what I did to an ex gf. And now the only way I can become aroused or get off is from stuff like I mentioned above. Thinking about normal sex or normal things just does not turn me on anymore, I feel like I need a girl to give me the comeuppance I think I deserve. I think it would be fun if I could find a partner I could talk with theses things about, or watch these scenes with. 

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Date a dominatrix.

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I can think of other parts of "The Other Woman" that was supposed to be sexier, but to each their own. lol.

There is nothing wrong with a fetish or a kink as long as anything done is consenual and no one is harmed. There is someone out there into everything you can think of. Your interests are your interests, doesn't matter what what other people think of them. And there is some woman out there who won't want engaging in some form of revenge or torment on you should you get to that stage. Even if it doesn't do for them what it does for you, part of the joy of doing things like that is seeing how much pleasure you can bring your partner. She doesn't need to be a dominatrix. You just need to love each other and be willing to try things out together. 

It's called role play. It can be very enjoyable, no matter the kink.

 

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One odd kink I have had the chance to take part in but backed out of it when I thought about it because it isn't the kind of sex I enjoy is women who have rape fantasies. During the time I was on Plenty of Fish (a site that did have a reputation even if there were still regular people on there looking for relationships) I was surprised how many times I came across women looking for that.

Interactions that went far beyond rough sex. Some of them said the only thing that was off the table for them was that they don't want to get hit in the face. Other than that though anything went.

Surprised me some women would have fantasies about getting raped though considering many who do actually get raped consider it to be the most traumatizing thing that has ever happened to them in their lives.

I wouldn't have been a good partner in that fantasy though because all I would have probably done is have them give me a bj for as long as I wanted. Which really wouldn't have been what they were looking for.

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On 9/6/2025 at 11:01 PM, Sony12 said:

Surprised me some women would have fantasies about getting raped though considering many who do actually get raped consider it to be the most traumatizing thing that has ever happened to them in their lives.

I mean... those two things are completely different? Kinda like saying that it's surprising that some people like roleplaying war in LARPs and video games when many people who have actually fought in a war consider it the most traumatizing thing that they've ever been through.

One is a fantasy where you still retain control over what you do, who you do it with, and when to stop. The other is a nonconsensual horror. There are a few people who do take things too far, and generally end up being traumatized from the experience. There are guidelines to acting out the fantasy safely (safewords, vetting a play partner, discussion of limits, etc).

 

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3 hours ago, Els said:

I mean... those two things are completely different? Kinda like saying that it's surprising that some people like roleplaying war in LARPs and video games when many people who have actually fought in a war consider it the most traumatizing thing that they've ever been through.

One is a fantasy where you still retain control over what you do, who you do it with, and when to stop. The other is a nonconsensual horror. There are a few people who do take things too far, and generally end up being traumatized from the experience. There are guidelines to acting out the fantasy safely (safewords, vetting a play partner, discussion of limits, etc).

 

That's probably true. As a guy though I would be pretty careful about getting involved in that type of thing as I am sure there are some ladies if they didn't like or feel comfortable with the experience would throw out accusations after the fact. And it would be your word against hers.

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On 8/31/2025 at 11:25 AM, Morb82 said:

I dont think I would ever act on any of my fetishes besides from of course watching movies and stuff with those kind of scenes in them. I just have this feeling like I need to be punished for what I did to an ex gf. And now the only way I can become aroused or get off is from stuff like I mentioned above. Thinking about normal sex or normal things just does not turn me on anymore, I feel like I need a girl to give me the comeuppance I think I deserve. I think it would be fun if I could find a partner I could talk with theses things about, or watch these scenes with. 

If you have no intention of acting out these fantasies of being punished for infidelity but aren't able to enjoy more "typical" sex acts, I'm wondering how you hope to find sexual fulfillment with a partner? 

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16 hours ago, Sony12 said:

That's probably true. As a guy though I would be pretty careful about getting involved in that type of thing as I am sure there are some ladies if they didn't like or feel comfortable with the experience would throw out accusations after the fact. And it would be your word against hers.

Sure, there are always risks that we take when engaging in sex, and especially when engaging in kinky sex. For the bottom/sub, the risks are typically higher - the person they are with might not respect their limits, might not stop when they safeword, might not follow proper safety precautions, so on and so forth. They are literally entrusting their life and health to the person they are playing with (which is why many are so careful when choosing a partner).

For the top/Dom (i.e. the "guy" in your scenario), there are risks as well, notably the ones that you mention. And the best way to mitigate these risks is to exercise the same precautions - take safety precautions and be very careful whom you choose to play with. It's never a guarantee in either case, but it does reduce the risk. FWIW, if physical damage occurs, in many jurisdictions it doesn't even matter if the victim consented, as a person cannot legally consent to physical harm.

If this isn't your thing, then best to just say no. :) But it's possible to do it in a way that minimizes the risks to everyone involved.

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13 hours ago, landlocked said:

If you have no intention of acting out these fantasies of being punished for infidelity but aren't able to enjoy more "typical" sex acts, I'm wondering how you hope to find sexual fulfillment with a partner? 

oh i gave up on trying to find a partner a long time ago. ive been thought alot of trauma in the past 15 years... got ptsd and lots of other anxiety issues to be in any kind of relationship. 

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5 hours ago, Els said:

Sure, there are always risks that we take when engaging in sex, and especially when engaging in kinky sex. For the bottom/sub, the risks are typically higher - the person they are with might not respect their limits, might not stop when they safeword, might not follow proper safety precautions, so on and so forth. They are literally entrusting their life and health to the person they are playing with (which is why many are so careful when choosing a partner).

For the top/Dom (i.e. the "guy" in your scenario), there are risks as well, notably the ones that you mention. And the best way to mitigate these risks is to exercise the same precautions - take safety precautions and be very careful whom you choose to play with. It's never a guarantee in either case, but it does reduce the risk. FWIW, if physical damage occurs, in many jurisdictions it doesn't even matter if the victim consented, as a person cannot legally consent to physical harm.

If this isn't your thing, then best to just say no. :) But it's possible to do it in a way that minimizes the risks to everyone involved.

Yep the main kink I am into is age gap sex (particularly with older women). I was in a position when I was younger where I got quite a bit of attention from older women and accepted a few invitations  and discovered that I had a lot of fun being a boy toy figure. And usually in  those situations the women want to do stuff to you. Not really be submissive to you.

The main thing you need to be worried about in those situations is if the lady is actually married or not. There have been a couple situations where I have wondered if they were as single as they claimed. Most of the time though they are women just getting out of a relationship or women who haven't had sex for awhile and are a little horny.

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