I cheated when I was younger, now I have this weird fetish...

[Morb82]

When I was younger and dumb I cheated on a girlfriend, and now that im older I have fetish for revenge type sexual fantasies(Go figure!). The ones I really like are, I like it when a girl gets back at a cheater by doing something to his car, like keying it, sugar in gas tank, spray paint, any kind of vandalism is really hot to me. Another thing I just found the other day that really turned me was this horror movie short I seen on Youtube. It was called "Emptied" and it was about this guy who cheated on his girlfriend, but she was a dentist. So he went to see her, and she puts him to sleep and pulls all this teeth out, and you can tell she is really enjoying herself! I love seeing when cheaters get what they deserve. I get butterflies in my tummy thinking about these things. Another one thats not as extreme is from the movie "The Other Women" there is a part where there is like this prank payback montage of the the girl getting back at her cheating husband, and she puts hormones in his drink, dips his toothbrush in the toilet, and hair remover in his shampoo... I guess these things are supposed to be funny to other folks, but to me they turn me on! Anyone else like this kind of idea? I guess im just wondering why i get off to this so much. I really love the emotional aspect of it all, and seeing people getting the comeuppance and humiliation they deserve.

Are Fetish and kinks like this bad? Sometimes I feel bad after getting off to these thoughts, and think maybe something is wrong with me.

[Alpacalia]

A lot of folks enjoy humiliation in the form of sex play.

Humiliation kinks are real and not uncommon.

Maybe because you’ve experienced or caused emotional pain in the past (like cheating), these fantasies serve as some kind of emotional reckoning or symbolic self-punishment.

[Sony12]

Fetishes are normal. However a fetish about things like vandalism and stuff like damaging a person's vehicle or property is a complete no no and borders on being a crime.

Safer fetishes are more the way to go. Things like a woman fantasizing about giving blowjobs to a younger man.........or an older man wanting to go down on a younger woman. Things like that.

Edited Sunday at 01:10 PM by Sony12

[FredEire]

Fetishes are weird. I'm not expert I just find them interesting but it seems to me that apart from body stuff like foot fetishes the more behaviour based ones are usually based on control, or lack of it. So if you are into BDSM or even lower level stuff like handcuffs it turns you on that you completely at the mercy of the other person.

Maybe in this case you've attached something sexual to the anger and unpredictability of a scorned girlfriend. I don't think there's necessarily anything bad about it unless you feel maybe its a trauma response or you end up behaving in an unhealthy way because of it like cheating on future partners deliberately just to get this reaction.

[smackie9]

Fetishes can be an emotional struggle because the fetish is what makes you sexually aroused. You may find a normal sex life rather boring and can affect your relationships. People either live a double life and find refuge out side the relationship, or end up having a solitary life if the fetish takes over, or if you are lucky, you find someone who relishes in the same fetish. 

Since yours has started to escalate to getting very aroused by violent acts such as the teeth pulling maybe it's time to see a therapist to discuss this with them. I'm not saying it's wrong to enjoy a fantasy, or kink. I say whatever floats your boat BUT when it comes to the cruelty....that could lead to disturbing behaviour down the road. 

[Carlston]

I sort of have a weird fetish about when people pretend to be another person online and it's obvious to me but not so many other people, including those who want to try to help the person, and then I see the person who was pretending to be another person isn't there anymore because someone with more buttons than they do pressed one of them.

[Morb82]

I dont think I would ever act on any of my fetishes besides from of course watching movies and stuff with those kind of scenes in them. I just have this feeling like I need to be punished for what I did to an ex gf. And now the only way I can become aroused or get off is from stuff like I mentioned above. Thinking about normal sex or normal things just does not turn me on anymore, I feel like I need a girl to give me the comeuppance I think I deserve. I think it would be fun if I could find a partner I could talk with theses things about, or watch these scenes with. 

[smackie9]

Date a dominatrix.

[ShySoul]

I can think of other parts of "The Other Woman" that was supposed to be sexier, but to each their own. lol.

There is nothing wrong with a fetish or a kink as long as anything done is consenual and no one is harmed. There is someone out there into everything you can think of. Your interests are your interests, doesn't matter what what other people think of them. And there is some woman out there who won't want engaging in some form of revenge or torment on you should you get to that stage. Even if it doesn't do for them what it does for you, part of the joy of doing things like that is seeing how much pleasure you can bring your partner. She doesn't need to be a dominatrix. You just need to love each other and be willing to try things out together. 

It's called role play. It can be very enjoyable, no matter the kink.