basil67 Posted September 4 Posted September 4 Brutally honest? It sounds like a complete waste of time. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted September 14 Posted September 14 On 9/4/2025 at 9:19 AM, basil67 said: Brutally honest? It sounds like a complete waste of time. Late to the party here, but I second this. There is nothing here, OP. I really hope you haven't been banking on this turning into more. He isn't interested.
Author lynn89 Posted September 14 Author Posted September 14 Sooo.. get this after I re followed him he dm'd bits for about a week then unfollowed me again and me from following him it's comical now. He dm'd me there on Saturday saying he flew over me on Thursday he went to london to see coldplay it was a 3 day solo site seeing and gig. I didn't ask why he didn't pit stop on the way back or over, but he said he wants to plan this trip back to where I live and wants to know my schedule as he's thinking October, asking for my phone number again etc. I told him I was free most of October.. I just wanna see what he comes back with if anything. But he's still unfollowing me. Guys what is going on??
ExpatInItaly Posted September 14 Posted September 14 What's going on is that you are wasting your time. I can't fathom why you would be interested in such a person.
Author lynn89 Posted September 14 Author Posted September 14 I'm not anymore but I just wanna see how it plays out I'm not sure if this is just pay back for unfollowing him which is pathetic in itself.
basil67 Posted September 14 Posted September 14 1 hour ago, lynn89 said: I'm not anymore but I just wanna see how it plays out I'm not sure if this is just pay back for unfollowing him which is pathetic in itself. Lynn89, you really need to get a life outside of getting all wound up about a guy you barely know and who clearly isn't interested in anything romantic. Just block him once and for all
ExpatInItaly Posted September 14 Posted September 14 (edited) 4 hours ago, lynn89 said: I'm not anymore but I just wanna see how it plays out I'm not sure if this is just pay back for unfollowing him which is pathetic in itself. Girl, it is obvious you are still very much interested in this person. You really need to find more constructive relationships. You've been fixating on this guy for way too long. You first posted about this months ago, and absolutley nothing has changed. How has it played out siince then? Big, fat nothingburger. I would not even care to see how it plays out. I would have gotten bored with this long ago. Please tell me you haven't been forgoing meeting other guys in favour of this total dead-end? Edited September 14 by ExpatInItaly 1
Author lynn89 Posted September 21 Author Posted September 21 No I have been going on dates. This guy just keeps coming back he refollowed me again this week I removed him as a follower twice and he still follows me. He even dm'd again saying he hopes to get the trip over to me sorted soon to which I havnt replied. May be time to block I reckon thanks guys
ExpatInItaly Posted September 22 Posted September 22 7 hours ago, lynn89 said: No I have been going on dates. This guy just keeps coming back he refollowed me again this week I removed him as a follower twice and he still follows me. He even dm'd again saying he hopes to get the trip over to me sorted soon to which I havnt replied. May be time to block I reckon thanks guys Way overdue, yes. This has no future.
Author lynn89 Posted September 22 Author Posted September 22 Thanks for your honesty he has said he's booked a flight for the end of October I'll believe it when I see it
ExpatInItaly Posted September 22 Posted September 22 1 hour ago, lynn89 said: Thanks for your honesty he has said he's booked a flight for the end of October I'll believe it when I see it Who cares if he has, really? There's stil no future with him. So he might come, stay a bit, have some fun, and then carry on his merry way. It's not going to become more. That much has been clear for a long time, Lynn. 1
stillafool Posted September 22 Posted September 22 On 9/14/2025 at 5:23 AM, lynn89 said: I'm not anymore but I just wanna see how it plays out I'm not sure if this is just pay back for unfollowing him which is pathetic in itself. Lady, it has already played out and you're the one getting played. He has no intentions of seeing you, he's just keeping you hanging on for an ego boost. He's probably laughing with his friends about you by now. My Gawd, are you seeing anyone else where you live? I would never let any man who showed me so little interest, know that I was this desperate for his attention.
Author lynn89 Posted September 23 Author Posted September 23 I'm not seeing anyone at present. Just found out (not from him) that he was actually in London for a week last week staying with locals he had said it was for 3 days for a gig he got free tickets to. I asked him why he did pop over seen as he was so close he kinda dodged the question just telling me all the things he did while there. As soon as he got home he followed me back I delete him multiple times as a follower but kept following as my page is public I run a business. Then sent a msg saying how was your weekend I hope to get the trip booked this week. He's started txting me on Whatsapp saying his Instagram account keeps unfollowing me (he obviously only did it because I did) I find if I msg him he can ignore it for up to a week but if I do that he throws out the 'trip talk'. You're prob right it's ego boosting for him and attention seeking.
basil67 Posted September 23 Posted September 23 13 minutes ago, lynn89 said: I delete him multiple times as a follower but kept following as my page is public I run a business. Surely businesses can block followers? And block him on Whatsapp and IG too. 1
stillafool Posted September 23 Posted September 23 6 hours ago, lynn89 said: He's started txting me on Whatsapp saying his Instagram account keeps unfollowing me (he obviously only did it because I did) I find if I msg him he can ignore it for up to a week but if I do that he throws out the 'trip talk'. You're prob right it's ego boosting for him and attention seeking. Why are you still trying to hold onto this 'nothing connection' and this man who is giving you the run around? He's not even trying to see you. Are you dating anyone else in real life?
Author lynn89 Posted September 23 Author Posted September 23 He's making out he is by asking my schedule to come visit next month. Like why do they bother? No I'm not seeing anyone currently I've been on a few dates
flitzanu Posted September 23 Posted September 23 31 minutes ago, lynn89 said: Like why do they bother? free, low effort sex is always better than no sex, that's whyl
ExpatInItaly Posted September 23 Posted September 23 1 hour ago, lynn89 said: He's making out he is by asking my schedule to come visit next month. Like why do they bother? No I'm not seeing anyone currently I've been on a few dates I mean...have you met men? Because he knows you want him, clearly, and figures you will remain available to him in case he wants to have a little casual fun. So far, you have given him no reaon not to bither.
stillafool Posted September 23 Posted September 23 5 hours ago, lynn89 said: He's making out he is by asking my schedule to come visit next month. Like why do they bother? No I'm not seeing anyone currently I've been on a few dates Because you are more than willing to engage and feed his ego. Why are you so hung up on this guy that you won't let go? What's wrong with the other men you've been on a few dates with? Are they worth the attention you are showering on this dude? 1
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