love2love Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 So there is this guy I am interested in. I met him through a friend of mine and told my friend to come out kareoking and to bring him along. Well my friend tells the guy I like about my plans and the guy I like gets my number and calls me. He says he can't make it because he has a birthday party to go to but that he will come out afterwards. So he calls me at 12 after the Birthday party and we meet up at a bar and my friends come with me. We have a pleasant talk and he drives me home.....while we have a drive I am pretty chatty about a lot of things because I was nervous....I tell him about my situation which is I live with my mother because she is ill and I support her and my father has passed away...I'm 29 and it's an embarrassing thing but I told him the truth...Then when he dropped me off he said something to the extent of ...I will go ahead and have to steal you away for some coffee or a drink...Does that mean he is interested or not? I mean I usually have guys take me out to dinner on a date and I know this guy is successful and certainly can afford it. So maybe he doesn't like me and is trying to be nice? I just thought that if a guy is interested he would let the women know and like go after her and propose a date where you sit down at dinner.. So maybe he just wants to keep it light because he doesn't care to date me? Any thoughts on this?Thanks.
Freckles1001 Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 Coffee or a drink is a date - it's a common first date...I would think that he is interested in going on a casual first date. I don't see how it has anything to do with what he can afford. Dinner is sometimes deferred until a later date these days - starting with something more casual is often preferable. Then, if the drink goes well, he may say, are you hungry? would you like to go get something to eat? That kind of thing.
gfto Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 he's interested. coffee and drinks is an excellent first date. For my first date with my girlfriend, I simply invited her to meet me for a few drinks. I don't think I asked her out for dinner until about the fourth date. The reason is, unfortunately, there are lots of professional daters and other assorted time-wasters out there who will date someone who they're not really interested in. A few coffee dates, miniature golf, or other inexpensive activities allows you to weed out those people before you drop $40 on dinner for two.
EMJ Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 That's the only way you'll know for sure. Coffee is " let's talk some more, before I'm sure I want to take this further with you". It's cool. Maybe you should have tea (less caffeine). Let him do more of the talking. If you are nervous you might say too much. Let him reveal himself. Don't be to eager. Guys like to "win" you over. Good Luck!
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