Author ms_jnj Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 so agreed on that. in fact i think guys who paid for a couple of dates expecting sex and turned nasty if they dont are a major turn-off. QUOTE] I know! This irritates me so much. He paid for Mexican food (around $17) once and dinner at a nicer place ($35) once. This = $52.00 If one were to be paying me for sex it sure as heck would not be $52!!! Not that I would take any amount of money but $52 is just an insult. This doesn't even take into account that I bought movie tickets ($20), beer at the bar ($12) and dinner at a cafe ($15). This = $47 So the total difference in money spend is $5. I owe him a coffee not sex.
Milo Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 After four dates, I am not necessarily thinking sex is in the making with just anyone. That said, some of the best girlfriends I had were not about to wait until the fourth date. There was no wait period and no moral cost attached to it. I think it really depends on what your dates are about. If they are full of fluff, posturing, and fakery, then it's kind of difficult to get into the other person. If you make an immediate connection, then the rest comes naturally and easily. A lot of people who get too cynical and jaded take forever to let their guard down, which serves them well in avoiding shallow people. But after the fourth date, I am looking for a little sweetness. Some sort of indication that they are anticipating something in the near future. Any gesture that they genuinely enjoy your company is appreciated. If they are aloof, unresponsive, or in a hurry, I would bail on any future dates for certain.
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