suzie sweet Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 My boyfriend and i broke up 2wks ago (read me other posts if u want whole story) he came over 2nite and i asked a few questions including cud he ever go back to how we used to be?his reply was "at the moment No but maybe in the future who knows".. Is that the gentle way of letting me down and saying its over for gud cos if he truely loved me surely hed b frightened i met someone else in the future Link to post Share on other sites
UT_longhorn Posted January 15, 2006 Share Posted January 15, 2006 i think its a line to let down people easier. i got that from my girlfriend when she broke up with me. give him space. maintain NC. take a few steps back. youre gonna have a rough few weeks coming when you start NC, but it will start to give you a chance to reflect on your relationship. whats going on with it. whats good. whats bad. itll also give your bf a chance to miss you. and who knows, he might change his mind later. but by that time, you might have already realized the relationship isnt somthing that you dont what. Link to post Share on other sites
someone_here Posted January 16, 2006 Share Posted January 16, 2006 he said that just to make it sounds nicer. the bottom line is he doenst want the relationship. girl, dont be sad .. .ok ? just stay with NC . if eventually one day u guys can be together, let him be the one who starts it and not you . who knows... few months from now you meet someone who is so much better than your ex? Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted January 16, 2006 Share Posted January 16, 2006 UT and Someone have it right on. He doesn't want to hurt you, but he hasn't got the stones to be direct. Sorry, sweetie, but it's over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author suzie sweet Posted January 16, 2006 Author Share Posted January 16, 2006 I knew deep down meself anyway but seeing it in black & white from you lovely honest folk really hurts infact im crying wrighting this.Ive gave him so many chances to be honest be a man not a mouse he obviously feels terrible that i gave up my marrige for him and my kids lost their daddy cos of our affair,and thats why he dearnt be honest.He made the excuse he was jelous and insecure about the friendship i have with my husband but you have to keep your friendship because of the kids dont you?keep everything normal as poss so your kids dont suffer,Yes daddy was often here for tea we still did family stuff together and no my divorce hasnt come through yet,my husband owns the house im living in so it was all rather hard for me trying to keep everyone happy,KIDS,EX HUBBY,AND NEW FELLA.Anyway ive decided to do no contact starting from today its hard cos he often texts me and calls round tells me he`s here for me if i get stuck with anything he wants to help so i told him today no thanks.Maybe he finds it easy been friends like we used to be cos he`s over it (even though he told me he still loves me the other night)but i cant be friends at the moment cos i feel i cant move on while he`s still in my life.Oh thanks every1 for listening with no family and friends around me i get really lonely,im back on me anti depressants today so hopefully shud give me a lift. God bless you all xxxxxx Link to post Share on other sites
Toronto Posted January 16, 2006 Share Posted January 16, 2006 But you know what, it hurts and it's hard to accept it and he maybe it feels worse because you felt confused by how he tried to soften the blow, but it could be worse. My bf was just flat out blunt about it, "it's not going to happen" he said squashing all hope and tearing my heart out. I've never had anyone be so blunt and cold to me before. I guess that either way it's shattering. Link to post Share on other sites
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