Does he plan to rekindle our relationship

[livingalife2009]

I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months. We were exclusive and it was the heathiest relationship I ever had. He was the right guy but according to him it was the wrong time, even though I would be the perfect life partner. We spent significant time together and travelled together. He was kind and respectful and I fell in love with him. After our big trip, I noticed he pulled away while I wanted to deepen our connection. He said he wanted space due to work and grieving over unfortunate events in his life that happened about 1.5 years ago. Intimacy decreased and felt superficial. 

Since he was pulling away and not ready to deepen our relationship, I broke up with him over text. But right away I realized breaking up over text was such a disrespectful thing to do to someone I respected highly. I wanted to apologize in person and requested him to meet with me, without telling him the reason. He agreed.

Last night I texted to confirm our meeting, and I asked if we should go to dinner. He said he was a bit sad about us, but dinner sounded good, I suggested a restaurant and asked if he should make a reservation, which he did right away

I am now wondering if he is thinking of reconciliation. He had told me more than once that I would be a perfect life partner. I really like him but don't want to put my life on hold while he doesn't know if he and I have a future together. We are both in our late 40s, both doing very well in life. 

What do you all say?

 

[ShyViolet]

We're not mind readers, we can't tell you what he is thinking.

But I would just say, don't get your hopes up.  When a guy is really into you, he doesn't pull away and say he wants space at 6 months of dating.  That doesn't sound like someone who really wants to build a relationship with you.

[ExpatInItaly]

3 hours ago, ShyViolet said:

When a guy is really into you, he doesn't pull away and say he wants space at 6 months of dating.  That doesn't sound like someone who really wants to build a relationship with you.

This. I don't think this was going in a good direction anyway, OP. 

4 hours ago, livingalife2009 said:

But right away I realized breaking up over text was such a disrespectful thing to do to someone I respected highly.

I don't understand your thinking here. How is it disrespectful to break up with someone when you know the relationshop isn't working? Or do you mean you acted on an emotional impulse and then regretted it? 

4 hours ago, livingalife2009 said:

He had told me more than once that I would be a perfect life partner.

Right, but he still distamced himself from you. People can say many things. It's their actions you need to watch. His actions were telling you that he wans't feeling this the same way. 

[livingalife2009]

Thank you for your thoughts. I will get the answer when I meet with him. I will update.