Bad Luck? Or Bad Personality?

[HeyitsTee]

So I've only ever been in one real relationship in my life. It was in high school and it was a firends turned romantic type of thing. Since then, I've been single. I'm now 25 and I've been doing some self reflection and I can't help but wonder if I'm the problem. 

I'm pretty introverted and I don't go out much, but i have tried dating apps and online forums. I've gone out with my friends on occasion, but I'll admit i don't pursue random people I don't know because I would feel uncomfortable if someone did that to me. I also live with my mom due to financial reasons.

Are these really such undesirable traits that I can't get a date? I've seen downright awful people get relationships and I just don't get it. I'm not saying I'm mother Teresa or anything, but I'd like to think I'm a decent person and have some good qualities to offer in a relationship. 

Is there something I can do different? I don't want to change who I am, but I'm also not ready to accept that I'm unlovable either. 

[MsJayne]

You don't really give a lot of info, but from what you say I'm guessing you don't really get out much. Do you have a circle of friends, people who you went to school with or people you've worked with, people you met through hobbies, sports, or other interests? It's very hard to get out and meet new people without a wing-person, do you have someone who would be available to go out places with you a couple of times a month? 

[ExpatInItaly]

14 hours ago, HeyitsTee said:

I'm pretty introverted and I don't go out much, but i have tried dating apps and online forums. I've gone out with my friends on occasion, but I'll admit i don't pursue random people I don't know because I would feel uncomfortable if someone did that to me. I also live with my mom due to financial

I would work on this. 

You don't need to be a party animal or change who you are, of course, but you can't very well expect to meet people if you don't get out much and don't really talk to others when you're out. It's not about pursuing random people either, necessarily. Most people wouldn't go from 0 to 60 like that. It's more about socilizing with others, gettingn to know some new people, seeing where else a conversation might go.