skeptik224 Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Being one of the great ones, I do agree that you shouldn't let them get away. I also do believe that at some point you will look back with regret. However, it's not fair to your boyfriend. I'm on the side like I've said where my ex left me. I am slowly, very slowly learning to see her side. If someone isn't ready, you can't force them. Period. How did your counseling session go?
Author kitkat. Posted January 19, 2006 Author Posted January 19, 2006 The counselling session was useful thanks. We looked a lot at issues why I might not be ready and also why I might not want to be alone etc. Bascially, her suggestion was that we make it a proper break where we are not a couple and see how that goes for a couple of months. I like the idea on some levels because it suits me and my situtation. However, I don't think its fair or right on him as its not at all where he is coming from and I respect that. If I were to put it to him that I would not be his girlfriend during this break, he'd split with me in case I started dating. He'd hate that, which I would understand although I'd be ok with him dating. So still working through those issues. Also, I've been thinking about what confuesd and skeptik said about letting the great ones get away cos of timing/past etc and discussed that with the counsellor. She pointed out to me that the relationship sounded as if it had changed because of changes in our lives. In other words, although he might not have stopped being a good guy, the relationship had become unbalanced and unhealthy and so it wasn't a great relationship any more that I would be letting go of. Also, timing and past (as confuesd and skeptik pointed out) can be very relevant. Thanks
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