kjo314 Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Guys, YOu have seen my previous posts and it has been almost 2 months.... She said she still wanted to be friends but hasn't contacted me... I can't hlep but think that if I become her friend... one day... she will want to get back together...but people keep telling me to do no contact... I don't know what to do... Please help... I still want her in my life even if it is just as friends... i don't know what to do..
Author kjo314 Posted January 14, 2006 Author Posted January 14, 2006 I just got this e-mail from her... I just emailed you to see how life in the world of Kenny was doing? I just had my first week of classes and and I am still reeling from it all. I had my first practicum class, but all they did was go over the kind of paperwork we need for each client so I didn't get to see anybody. I thought I might get to teach this semester, but it turned out all the positions were filled by returning teachers so I will have to wait and see about next semester. I am still holding out for one more assistantship opportunity which I hope I get. I would be helping my fave prof teach a class, so I really hope I get it! I have a really long weekend this week with not too much homework so I've just sort of been chillin'. I went out for pizza with my grad school buddies yesterday and then watched a movie with them later. I am trying to be more sociable, so I am having a movie night at my place tomorrow and hopefully people will show up! Speaking of people, I am getting a third roommate unfortunately. She is moving in on Monday. We were kind of forced into it, but at least she is nice and not too weird. Even if she is weird, I can deal with that. We are all a little crazy in the mental health profession. Grits is good, she starting making these noises around us that doesn't resemble anything that a dog should be able to do. And I don't know why she does it, but its hilarious. Other than that, life has been pretty low-key. I've been trying to adjust to the new semester and helping my friend, Stephanie, plan her wedding. She is getting married March 4, and needs ideas. It's fun. We got a new girl, Kate, in our program from New Orleans. I think I might hang out with her tonight. I might also get a job where my friend, Sharmeen works at the YMCA. She teaches/watches kids and they need somebody. I figured since I want to work with little kids it would be a good thing to do. How are things with you? How are the kids at Alexander? What's life like in Athens? What's the latest gossip? Are you graduating soon? How's the family?? Feel free to call if you want to chat or need anything.
beentheredonethat2 Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 All those questions at the end of that email were "I better show I care about someone else but myself, even though the only thing I care about is me and my life" Had she begun with that line of questioning, and said something about you in more descriptive detail, I would assume she cares about re-establishing a friendship/relationship with you. Her purpose in my mind has to do with her guilt. She figures she might need you for something, and better keep her options open (no matter how undesirable). Haven't you felt real lonely and desperate and wrote/called someone you know you don't want and aren't interested in, but they serve the purpose for the moment? I sure have, and it never goes anywhere, because when she gets what she really wants she'll dump you like a pair of old tennies. Sorry so candid, but sometimes love can be blind, and you wouldn't be asking us if you didn't want a head-check with reality
gfto Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 beenthere is 100% correct!! Don't reply to that e-mail. When a woman dumps you, she always throws in that BS about wanting to remain friends. She doesn't want to be friends. She's bored and lonely, so she sent you an e-mail. She knows you're still crazy about her and that you'll write back to her and chase after her like a chump. Don't. Delete the e-mail and go about your business. You'll feel much better. If you answer, she'll suck you right back in and then drop you again. I disagree, however, that she feels any guilt whatsoever. She's only concerned about herself; not you.
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