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What do you think about a 31 year old man and an 18 year old woman in a friends with benefits relationship?

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An 18 year old is old enough to make their own decisions. As long as it is consensual it's fine. However probably best to make your intentions clear to her that you aren't looking for anything serious and prefer casual at this point in time.

There is a lot bigger age gaps getting together than a 31 year old going to bed with an 18 year old. Though many would consider 18 pretty young as long as you aren't forcing yourself on her she is of legal age. Might want to avoid her dad though.

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I'd wonder if there is something off with the 31-year-old who maybe can't get a woman closer to his age. 

Other than that, nothing to see, really. Both are adults and assuming both are consenting, 

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19 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I'd wonder if there is something off with the 31-year-old who maybe can't get a woman closer to his age. 

Other than that, nothing to see, really. Both are adults and assuming both are consenting, 

If a 31 year old wanted to get into an actual serious relationship with an 18 year old that would raise a few eyebrows but the OP makes it pretty clear it would be for sexual purposes.

Now 18 is pushing the limit (a more advisable situation would be pursuing a sexual encounter with someone in their early to mid 20's) but there are men and women in their 50's pursuing encounters with 20 something year olds. 

Being attracted to younger individuals is a normal attraction. Not everyone acts on those feelings but it is an attraction many have. As long as you are careful about it it's fine as long as they are of legal age.

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It doesn't break the law if 18 is the age of consent in your location, but beyond that, it's on you to consider the vulnerability of a potential partner and weigh that against your intentions.

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I had a serious long-term relationship with a 19 year old when I was 38. The relationship lasted 7 years. Looking back, I think now that the choice of such a young partner indicated insecurities, fears, and control issues on my side.

Now, friends with benefits is a situation I’ve never been in. I don’t think there is anything wrong with such an arrangement in general, but I can’t understand why a man in his 30’s and an 18 year old girl would want to have it with each other.

It’s one thing to have feelings for each other, but FWB is a purely sexual arrangement and I’m having a hard time imagining an 18 year old girl actually wanting that.

As a man, if I wanted an FWB, I’d definitely want it only with a mature, independent, experienced woman who knows exactly what she wants.

It’s not about the age gap but about the fact that the other person is so young. 18 year olds don’t really know what they want and I hope you don’t mislead her or hurt her feelings.

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33 minutes ago, Gebidozo said:

I had a serious long-term relationship with a 19 year old when I was 38. The relationship lasted 7 years. Looking back, I think now that the choice of such a young partner indicated insecurities, fears, and control issues on my side.

Now, friends with benefits is a situation I’ve never been in. I don’t think there is anything wrong with such an arrangement in general, but I can’t understand why a man in his 30’s and an 18 year old girl would want to have it with each other.

It’s one thing to have feelings for each other, but FWB is a purely sexual arrangement and I’m having a hard time imagining an 18 year old girl actually wanting that.

As a man, if I wanted an FWB, I’d definitely want it only with a mature, independent, experienced woman who knows exactly what she wants.

It’s not about the age gap but about the fact that the other person is so young. 18 year olds don’t really know what they want and I hope you don’t mislead her or hurt her feelings.

There are a lot of 18-22 year old young women who are attracted to the experience an older man has. Same thing goes for younger men when they look at older women. They are attracted to the experience they have. And the older women in these situations are attracted to the younger men for many of the same reasons men are attracted to younger women.

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9 hours ago, Sony12 said:

he OP makes it pretty clear it would be for sexual purposes.

Yes, I know. I can read. 

Doesn't chance my stance. 

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