How do I find someone right for me naturally or otherwise?

[SBMoongirl]

I'm a 27 year old woman and with each passing year, I feel the weight of my limited lifespan crush me that much more. I don't want to be in my 60's at my child's high school graduation, and it might be a dramatic thought seeing as I'd have to have that child in my late 40s, but the way my life is, it seems highly probable and that's assuming I'd ever get to have one in the first place. I don't have any friends and my workplace doesn't really allot for getting to know anybody. I work in fast-paced retail so I barely even know my own coworker's names, never have the opportunity to speak to them beyond at BEST a brief "hello", and most of my customers are the elderly and soccer moms. I don't drink so going to a bar as I've been recommended to find somebody isn't ideal since I don't personally want to be with somebody who finds drinking to be a preferrable pastime (as picky as that might sound to some, but stand my ground on certain values). I tried dating apps but I seem to just attract the most insecure men the country has to offer (one of which accused me of "abusing him" because it "made him cry" when I briefly mentioned I once crushed on somebody he'd never met before I even met him) or strictly transactional men (one's first message ever to me was "what do you offer?") and I've become too nervous to keep using those apps.

But that leaves me with really no other options. I don't judge men based on how they look and only really care about their personality so there's no room for me to look around a public place and think "he looks cute, I should approach him" and it's kind of awkward to go up to somebody random and ask semi-personal questions. I've been told "go places you'd want to go so you might find somebody with similar interests", but I don't really GO places and my interests don't largely involve public gatherings. I don't party or go to functions. I don't go to any sort of religious establishment. The most I've gone this year outside of work and grocery shopping is to a Denny's where my meal was comped because the owner felt bad I was the only one by myself and a historical house where I was the only visitor. There aren't any singles mixer events within 2 hours of me because I live kind of far from any major cities.

I wish a man might approach me since I'd admire that kind of confidence/ bravery, but I'm told I'm "intimidating" because I'm slightly tall and appear too serious (that and I don't wear makeup because it's just a hassle) and it was a bit devastating when a mother assumed I had children when I was 21 because I "looked tired and had that demeanor". I was asked out once in my life and it was by a man older than my grandfather as he held the door open for me at the mall on my way to a job interview and that was a little over 2 years ago.

Between having a crummy employment situation that wouldn't help, having no friend that could set me up with anyone (or friend in general), dating apps turning up less than ideal matches, and lacking interests worthy of public gatherings, I don't know what to do in order to meet anyone ideal for me. I don't need somebody wealthy or successful or muscular or popular or to have a degree or a nice car or be endlessly handsome. I just want somebody I feel like I can get along with as a stable human being and I'm surprised by how hard that is to find these days.

I know this is long-winded so I'll cut to the chase.

Does ANYBODY have any suggestions?