David18 Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Well, me and my gf have been going out for alittle over a month... and when we have sex.. if i lay my head near her.. i can hear her moan a tiny tiny bit.. almost so low you can't hear it.. but anyways my point is... she doesnt make any noise she just looks at me and just sits there it makes me feel like shes not enjoying it at all.. when my ex.. during sex she would talk dirty to me and moan real loud. thats what i liked cause it made me feel like she was enjoying it.. but with my current gf i sometimes dred having sex with her... cause it doesnt feel like she likes it or enjoys it... what should i do?
Merin Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Talk to her. Ask her if there is anything you can do that she would like... open up some conversation with her regarding your physical relationship. Keep in mind as well that it's possible that she is into it but she feels selfconscious in being vocal in the way of letting go (so to speak) and talking dirty or moaning. Think about the cues you're giving her as well when you're being intimate... are YOU talking to her and telling her what you like? OR letting her know in a vocal way that you're all about whats happening? Just saying that if you're already intimate, the IMO you should be able to have a conversation about this. Good Luck
lilmoma1973 Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Tell her the you want her hear moan and groan so that you know that she is enjoying it.. Maybe she isn't reaching the BIG O and that is why .. The main thing in relationship is to communicate ,tell her what you are feeling.!!:
slubberdegullion Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Yea, the ladies here are right. Talk to her. Not just on the couch or over a cup of coffee, but in bed too. "Ohhh, baby, I love to hear you moan..." etc etc... Maybe she just needs a little encouragement. By the way, don't expect Shakespearean prose. You know what Willie Shakespeare said when he and his lady were doing the deed? "Oh f*ck that's so f*cking good... oh gawd.... oh F*CK YEA...."
Author David18 Posted January 14, 2006 Author Posted January 14, 2006 "Oh f*ck that's so f*cking good... oh gawd.... oh F*CK YEA...." lol... Well all of you guys are right mayb i need to just talk to her about it... i don't want it to be a dramatic moan or anything.. just something to show that shes actually enjoying it. thanks all for the help
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Some women feel conditioned not to enjoy themselves during sex. You're just going to have to teach her a bit and help her relax. Say to her, "Does this feel good? Tell me how it feels. You know how much I love pleasing you, and it's such a turn on when tell me what you like." You get the picture.
Outcast Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 If you're focusing on feelings, it may not be 'natural' at all to make sounds.
Freckles1001 Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 The first few times I have sex with someone, I tend to be more quiet. Perhaps she's still getting into the groove with you so to speak. As I have gotten older and more comfortable with my sexuality, the more open I become - and that includes vocally...but usually not right away. Maybe because you're dating her for about a month, it's still early for her to be completely herself?
daletom Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Is she having orgasms? Hopefully, BEFORE you even penetrate? If so it just might be the way she is. If not, she may not be showing much response because there isn't much feeling to respond to. In general, girls are more vocal (and otherwise demonstrative) of sexual pleasure than guys - but some are quiet as a tomb. What sort of indications are you giving her of YOUR pleasure - she might be taking your lead as an indication of how "proper" people are "supposed" to respond. Give her some samples of what you'd like to happen and see if she follows the example. (I'm quite demonstrative at climax, for a guy. It always seemed quite natural fro me. I never realized how unusual it was until I had a partner who exclaimed, while it was still happening, "WOW! You come like a girl!") And it's possible she may be a little self-conscious about it. A few months after my wife & I exchanged virginity I told her how much I enjoyed hearing the little moaning, mewing, and whimpering sounds she made in the 20 seconds or so before her contractions started. That was a mistake - it made her self-conscious and it was YEARS before I heard a peep out of her. I hope you have better luck than I did!
TheSwordfish Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Well, I don't think yelling and talking dirty is an actual indication of her enjoying it. Some women overdue that routine. Thinking of an example. I had a really hot, long, wonderfull night with a girl, I haven't heard her scream or talk dirty, but the look on her face, and some other reactions (I won't go into), made it very clear to me that she enjoyed herself. She told me later on, she never had such a wondefull night before. We actually had good convesration in telling each otehr what we liked, so I do agree that is the key.
Walk Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Not to put the damper on this convo, but I'm a little confused... *par for course* You said you tried to break up with your gf of 2 years a couple days ago, but now she's saying she's pregnant. And in this post you've dated this girl for a little over a month? I'd try breaking up with the steady gf before sticking the old plug and glug into someone else. I find most women enjoy sex better if you do that. Very sorry if I got this all wrong. Just saw both your posts, so I'm a bit confused. Disregard this if I'm wrong about the pregnant gf of 2 years. Probably am wrong.
incognito Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 I'd try breaking up with the steady gf before sticking the old plug and glug into someone else. I find most women enjoy sex better if you do that. lmao dude...while you're nailing her, asking her if she likes it...whatever she says...tell her to say it again, louder. When she does, tell her it turns you on when she tells you
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