Is the romance dying already?

[TheBlingRing14]

Hello! Well, here is the good news. I have been seeing someone! Almost immediately after my last post, I met someone. We connected quickly, and we have either seen each other and/or talked to each other every day ever since. I mean, it's only been 2 weeks. But....it feels very good. At least, it has been. Until the last couple of days. 

He typically greets me in the morning or wishes me good night with a term of endearment and some cute little comment. He tells me how stunning and beautiful I am. And, I do the same of course. It is reciprocal. Over the last couple of days, though, he has been less and less cutesy. And....I know the cutesy phase only lasts so long. I don't want to overthink anything. So, I'm trying not to panic. 

So last night, he texts me as he leaving work, says he is going to grab some dinner, than will call when he gets home. Which he.....technically did. 2.5 hours later. He told me that he had decided to go to a Greek restaurant, told me what he had, told me how good it was...yada yada. I had 2 thoughts about this. One is that he could have easily pulled out his phone at any point and said, "Hey I stopped at a sit down place, it might be a little while." The second thought, and this is the insecure part of me talking, is that.....2.5 hours (minus actual commute time) sounds like just about the right time for a date. Which....we are not exclusive, so he is at perfect liberty to do. 

So, we had a phone call, and it was perfectly decent. We discussed an upcoming date. I asked his plans for today, which included laundry, relaxing, and talking with me, he said. 

So....he did greet me earlier today. But, it was a very simple, "Happy Saturday!" and nothing cutesy. No terms of endearment or anything like that. We texted for a bit, then I sent him a couple of pictures of me related to the conversation we were having. His responses were very simple....he just commented on the facts about the photos themselves. But....nothing about me. Whereas he would usually say I was stunning, gorgeous, beautiful, amazing, whatever........he didn't say any of that.

And, now I haven't heard from him in 5 hours. Which in the grand scheme of things isn't a lot but....combined with all the other concerns.....I just dunno. He lives in an apartment. He doesn't have a yard or a garage or a workshop. So I can't even say, "Well maybe he has been out doing...." this, that, or the other. 

 

I don't know whether to assume maybe we have just reached the point of the excitement is dying down. Or if my suspicions are legit or if I am just overthinking it....

 

[basil67]

It's only been two weeks - not nearly long enough to consider that he's made any type of commitment to you yet.    You're still in the 'getting to know you' process and I suspect he's losing interest.  

You'll know within a week, unless you pull the plug first 

[MsJayne]

Even if you're a supermodel you should never trust anyone who comes on strong with the flattery, because they're often the same, (shallow), person who loses interest as soon as they think the chase is over. If you've made yourself readily available to suit him and he's as shallow as he sounds you're probably right to feel something's off. He's changed the rules, and do you see how easily he did that? He set the tone by acting like you're Miss Wonderful and this was going to turn into a big relationship, and then he changed it by pulling back on the lovey-dovey stuff. He's deliberately putting you on the back-foot, and it's working very well. You feel a little confused, something's changed and you feel it but you don't know what it is, you're, as you say, "panicking". Step back, take a reality check, and acknowledge that you don't like this feeling that something's not right. If you brought it up with him I'll bet $50 that he'd give you the talk about expectations and there's no commitment, etc, and you'd end up feeling slightly humiliated. Further down the track, if you do get into a relationship with him, you'd be taken for granted and if you complained about it you'd be told you're insecure and needy. Do yourself a favour and be the one to end it now.  

[BaileyB]

You are seriously overthinking this… 

If it’s meant to be, it will be. 

[ExpatInItaly]

You're getting way, way ahead of yourself. 

5 hours ago, TheBlingRing14 said:

So, I'm trying not to panic. 

Why would you panic over someone you barely know? 

This person is virtually a stranger to you. Don't assign so much importance to "cutesy" words on a screen when ypu hardly know the person sending them. Between this thrad and your last one, it is clear you have some significant dating anxiety and tend to panic easily. 

Where is that coming from? 

[ShyViolet]

You're overthinking to the extreme.  You barely know this guy and you are not in a relationship with him.  If you are truly so insecure that you "panic" if a guy goes 5 hours without texting you, it sounds like maybe you aren't ready to date.  People don't need to sit on their phones all day texting you constantly.  That is pretty ridiculous.  People have lives.

Why don't you let this develop naturally and see what happens.  It might be the case that he loses interest and it doesn't go anywhere, and if that happens then so be it.  You need to get your insecurity under control.