I love my gf, but I dont really like her

[alongwithlove]

My gf and I have been together for over a year now. She's my first ever with everything, and I really do love her. 

 

For the past 6 or even more months though, every single day there has been some sort of argument. Recently I initiated a break, and I was upset bc I missed her for a while, but then I was fine. I know she loves me so much, and I love her too, but I dont really enjoy anything with her anymore. All the fighting and lack of change is so hard to deal with. She's willing to change, and she has a bit, but she's so sensitive and every argument ends up in me apologizing and its really tiring. Im not sure what to do. We aren't on a break anymore and we hangout twice a week, but it's not fun most of the time talking to her. I know she's willing to change for me but recently I've just been too tired to change for her and dont find her attractive anymore. Its hard to see her as the same throughout all of the arguing we've done. 

 

I found someone else, a friend, who I know isn't as sensitive and is willing to be there for me, and she's really nice, we have a lot in common. I dont know whether I should leave my current gf and go for her instead or take time to fix myself. 

 

Im not really attracted to my gf, and most of the time im not too happy with her, but it always gets better and we do have good times aswell. We have really high highs, and really low lows. I dont know what to do anymore, any suggestions?

[Els]

 It's fine to leave a relationship that isn't working for whatever reason. Heck, you're not married, you don't have kids or a house together, and you've only been together for ONE YEAR. I don't see why there is even a dilemma here. 

That being said, this:

36 minutes ago, alongwithlove said:

I found someone else, a friend, who I know isn't as sensitive and is willing to be there for me, and she's really nice, we have a lot in common. I dont know whether I should leave my current gf and go for her instead or take time to fix myself. 

Sounds super sketchy. Do you genuinely not like your gf anymore, or is this grass-is-greener syndrome?

I still think you should leave, but don't count on the relationship with your friend working out. Your friend probably isn't interested in you romantically, and is probably being there for you as a friend... because, you know, that's what friends do. Nothing that you've described here hints at her being attracted to you.

Leave and focus on yourself for now.

[ShyViolet]

It's time to end your relationship with your gf.  None of this is normal in a relationship.  If you aren't enjoying it anymore then stop wasting both your time and hers.  If you stay at this point, you are just stringing her along.

It's usually not healthy to jump from one relationship right into another, so I would advise against that.  But whatever you do, it very much sounds like this current relationship needs to end.

[Gebidozo]

8 hours ago, alongwithlove said:

I dont know whether I should leave my current gf and go for her instead or take time to fix myself. 

Leave your current girlfriend and then take time to fix yourself.

 

8 hours ago, alongwithlove said:

I really do love her. 

8 hours ago, alongwithlove said:

Im not really attracted to my gf

Contradiction in terms. Loving someone romantically includes attraction by definition.

Please break up with her. Your girlfriend deserved to be with someone who is attracted to her and isn’t eyeing future romantic prospects while still being in a relationship.

 

[MsJayne]

Sounds like you’re in a habitship more than a relationship. If you were really into your GF you wouldn’t be pondering about other women.