Amtguy Posted August 4 Posted August 4 Late last week, she told me that I had been crossing a boundary. She went out of the way to tell me that I had not hurt the friendship. I immediately said I was sorry and on the next day I apologize to her again saying that I’ve give it some more thought, and I was a bigger jackass then she let on. I then told her I’d see her on Monday. And that I’d be busy working on a new workshop (something I’ve kept her updated on). The issue was over me making physical contact. She was me to tone it down. No problem there, but my question is this. How do I show her (beyond the obvious) I care about now crossing her boundaries? would leave class, taking lunch, etc. with each other be pushing it? Quote
Gebidozo Posted August 4 Posted August 4 If she says you haven’t hurt the friendship, that means it’s friendship and not a romantic relationship. Why have you tried making physical contact, then? Is this the same girl that you went on a few dates with, during which nothing romantic happened? The one who told you that even meeting once per week was too much? What was the physical contact that you attempted, exactly? If it was something romantic and basic, like a passionate kiss, then it means she isn’t interested in you romantically. Plus, she calls this a friendship. I’d definitely drop it right there and then. On the off chance that your physical contact attempt was something overtly sexual or vulgar, like squeezing her breasts or publicly patting her on the butt - then yes, you’ve crossed a line, don’t do that unless you know that the woman definitely wants it. Quote
ExpatInItaly Posted August 5 Posted August 5 On 8/4/2025 at 3:03 AM, Amtguy said: The issue was over me making physical contact. How did you touch her? Quote
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