guys who have trouble meeting females are usually not popular guys overall

[spidercuz]

few things l noticed about guys who have trouble meeting females

1) they were never popular to begin with. that is to say, they never attracted females in school

2) not only are the unpopular with females, theyre also unpopular with men too

lota these guys will make goofy excuses, saying "l am new in town" thats why l cant meet females. but how much you wanna bet that they werent attracting any females in their home town either.

"l work with mostly guys". well you were in school with hundreds of fertile females, so what was your excuse there?

[Gebidozo]

One thing is certain, someone who refers to women as “females” will definitely have troubles meeting them.

[ExpatInItaly]

"Female" here. 

Pro tip: you will have an even harder time atracting women if you keep referring to us that way. 

[Carlston]

In my case the converse is not true I've never been a popular guy, never had more than a couple of friends but nd er had issues attracting women, many who were at the top of the attractiveness scale. 
 

Then again my lack of popularity and friends was at least partially related to my intolerance of most people in general. 

[Sony12]

Person created their profile and immediately posted this thread. Nope they aren't trolling at all. There is a degree of truth to this for school age kids but once people are out in the real world it can become much harder to meet people no matter who you are.

[Els]

12 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

One thing is certain, someone who refers to women as “females” will definitely have troubles meeting them.

Right?!?! Especially if that person refers to males as "men" in the exact same sentence... Gross. 

[Sony12]

The OP might be Jason Brown from Last Chance U.

Edited Monday at 07:11 PM by Sony12

[Gina2005]

17 hours ago, spidercuz said:

few things l noticed about guys who have trouble meeting females

1) they were never popular to begin with. that is to say, they never attracted females in school

2) not only are the unpopular with females, theyre also unpopular with men too

lota these guys will make goofy excuses, saying "l am new in town" thats why l cant meet females. but how much you wanna bet that they werent attracting any females in their home town either.

"l work with mostly guys". well you were in school with hundreds of fertile females, so what was your excuse there?

are those guys the same that like to use the word females so much? 

 

[ShySoul]

On 7/27/2025 at 9:46 PM, spidercuz said:

few things l noticed about guys who have trouble meeting females

1) they were never popular to begin with. that is to say, they never attracted females in school

2) not only are the unpopular with females, theyre also unpopular with men too

I presume by meeting females you mean forming dating/romantic relationships with them?

I have had very few cases of romance with women. However, I have always got along great with women. I have been closer to more women then men in my life, going as far back as I can remember. As a shy and reserved person, I was never Mr Popular. But I got along with nearly everyone I have ever known. And the couple that I haven't were people who had trouble getting along with anyone. My best friend of 20 years is female. I have had females tell me I understand them completely and that they wish more guys were like me. I have been told by women that I would make the perfect boyfriend. And many have admitted to being attracted to me. I even once had someone leave a note on my apartment door wanting to get to know me because she had seen me and was curious. Don't think attracting women is the issue.

The reality is that there are many different reasons things might not work out. It takes the right two people, at the right time and place, both being interested and able to start something for a relationship to work out. You can get along well with the opposite sex, be popular with them, but just not meet the right person. Or you could meet someone but one of you not be in the right place for more. It might not be popularity, it could be timing.

For that matter, it could be circumstances. Have a friend who is an aerospace engineer. The major, at least when he did it, was pretty much all men. Wasn't that he was unpopular with women, it was that he literally wasn't around many. And yet, he did meet one and ended up married to her. It had noting to do with being popular. What it did have to do with was him beng a caring and thoughful person who showed this woman love and respect.

Probably a bigger problem if you look at women and feel the need to comment on them being "fertile." Seeing things in terms of attraction, popularity and fertility will fail you in the long run. Seeing things in terms of respect, heart, and compassion will pay off in the end.

[enterthevoid]

They're women.  Not females.  You call men men, so call women women.  You also call them "fertile females" like they're a different species.  You would have a better dating life if you just treated them like regular people.

Your point about  "attracting them" seems like a pickup artistry thing.  i.e. you plan on doing specific things to make women attracted to you, because women are the same and they're a vending machine where you push specific buttons and the outcome you want comes out. 

Instead of trying to "attract them", get to know them as people.  

And yes, having good social skills will generally help you across the board (dating, friendships, career, etc).  That's a given.

Edited 16 hours ago by enterthevoid