She keeps texting but super sporadically

[Speedy79]

I was visiting my father in a rehab facility a week ago, and his "bunkmate", C, had a visitor around my age, A, who spoke zero English, but told C she thought I was cute.  

After she left, C told me she was very single and said I should ask her out.  I speak a little of her language so I figured why not.  He asked me for my number to give to her, so I did.  

The next morning, she texted me hello.  I introduced myself and asked if she'd like to get coffee.  She said maybe, so I figured the language barrier scared her.  I told her we could get to know each other first with a little texting and she said she'd prefer that.  The problem is that getting her to reply more than two or three words was like getting blood from a stone.

The questions were pretty one-sided, with me asking her.  She had to get to work so I wished her well and that was that.  At 1am she texted me good morning.  When I woke up and saw the text, I replied good morning and asked what her plans were for the day.  Crickets.  

The next morning at 2am she texted me good morning again.  I replied when I woke up and asked how things were going.  Crickets again.  

The next morning I texted her good morning first.  Almost 36 hours later I got a reply saying "Good afternoon, how are you?"

I have no idea why this woman decided to text my number in the first place if she flakes on meeting for coffee and ignores half of my texts.  It's like a weird game. Why even reply?  C told me she's probably just timid, but I have no clue how we're supposed to communicate over coffee if she has no time for texting and can't answer simple get-to-know-you questions?

I have a strong inclination to just not reply anymore unless she actually wants to initiate a conversation.  

[basil67]

I agree.  Don't ever put effort in if it's not being reciprocated

[Gebidozo]

2 hours ago, Speedy79 said:

I have no idea why this woman decided to text my number in the first place if she flakes on meeting for coffee and ignores half of my texts.  It's like a weird game. Why even reply?

Many women find it difficult to strike an appropriate tone when they reject a man’s advances, especially over text. They are sometimes afraid to hurt the man’s feelings, or perhaps elicit a violent reaction from him. So instead of sending a clear rejection text, they become evasive, hoping that the man will take the hint.

Some women just stop replying at all. In your case, she probably thought complete silence was too rude. So she replied in an exceedingly lukewarm fashion, avoiding an actual meeting, probably thinking that way things will smoothly dissipate by themselves.

[ShyViolet]

You already tried asking her out and she did not say yes..... she basically said no.  So stop wasting your time with this.

[Speedy79]

2 hours ago, ShyViolet said:

You already tried asking her out and she did not say yes..... she basically said no.  So stop wasting your time with this.

C had told me to try again, she's just shy...yadda yadda...that's why I kept trying, plus she kept texting me sporadically so I was confused.

Today I told him that the words and actions don't match.

[Speedy79]

3 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

Many women find it difficult to strike an appropriate tone when they reject a man’s advances, especially over text. They are sometimes afraid to hurt the man’s feelings, or perhaps elicit a violent reaction from him. So instead of sending a clear rejection text, they become evasive, hoping that the man will take the hint.

Some women just stop replying at all. In your case, she probably thought complete silence was too rude. So she replied in an exceedingly lukewarm fashion, avoiding an actual meeting, probably thinking that way things will smoothly dissipate by themselves.

That's what I had thought but tonight I let her text me and took a couple of hours to reply since I was doing things. When I didn't reply after half an hour, she found and messaged me hello on WhatsApp. If she was hoping I'd take the hint, why message me on a second platform, you know?

But I'm sure you're right. Still weird that she texted me in the first place if she wasn't interested.

[ExpatInItaly]

This is clearly a dead end. 

Her interest is toi low and you two won't be able to properly communicate anyway. I wouldn't waste any more time here. 

[enterthevoid]

If she flakes the first time, I'd ask again.  But if she flakes a 2nd time and makes no effort to reschedule, I'd delete her # and talk to other women.