Is it normal to be social media friends with an old FWB?

[MrHansh]

Hi

I've been dating a woman for 12 months and everything is going well. We work together and have done for 20 years so we know each other well. Both of us are divorced with kids.

I recently joined Instagram and was looking through her followers to add people from work and noticed that she follows a man who she had a fling with before she met her ex husband (whom cheated on her, hence divorce) The fling also worked at our establishment at the time and he had a gf... He eventually moved to the other side of the world with his gf within 12 months of them having said fling. I don't know how it ended, all I know that is was a secret but not to secret office romance.

He likes her photos but doesn't comment. He also follows other women from our workplace and likes their photos. (Yes I checked). My gf has only been on Instagram for about 5 years so she wouldn't have been his instagram friend whilst they had their thing. So now I wonder who followed who and why? Crazy, I know.

I totally trust her and I'm sure it's just noseyness (shes very nosey and will openly say this), since they had their thing, got married (then divorced) so maybe it was to show him that she has moved on?! I don't know.

She had a lot of casual relationships when she was younger as she wasn't ready to settle down, which I struggled with. Mainly due to the fact that I didn't and wish I had explored a little more and feel like I missed out. I sometimes get upset at not making a move earlier (although she made the move on me) and it makes me jealous when looking back at her younger self thinking I missed out on that period with her when she was starting to settle down with more serious boyfriends. I'm not a jealous person but for some reason with her I am. It's like I feel I missed out on thay chance, although we are together today. Insane, I know. I'm OK with it now but at the time I couldn't stop thinking about it, same with this. I just need to rationalise it but I can't see the wood for the trees. It's keeping me up at night and I don't know why!!!!!

Is it normal to be friends with your ex fwb? Especially when you've become social media friends years after your fling or am I just making myself crazy?!!

Edited 19 hours ago by MrHansh
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