lonelybird Posted yesterday at 08:11 AM Posted yesterday at 08:11 AM I can't believe this site still exists. Long time ago I visited the site when I was a single. Now I am married with 2 lovely children. And husband is recently chatting with girls on a sex site, masterbate over porns. We separated our bedroom long time ago. I feel sad, but not desperate. I don't want to beg because I know this will go no where. I start to think he doesn't deserve me and refuse to devalue myself over this. He is obsessed with chatting with girls and gave no time to kids and me. I will let him have what he wants and he will not get my time and effort either. Quote
Els Posted yesterday at 11:52 AM Posted yesterday at 11:52 AM (edited) I remember you, and I'm awfully sorry to hear that. Time does fly, doesn't it? I started posting on LS when I was in a LDR with my ex, I'm now happily married to my partner of over a decade. In your case, what is stopping you from filing a divorce? If you say the children, it's better that they grow up in a single parent household than in a marriage that is so clearly toxic with an evidently cheating father. They will emulate your relationship with your father when they grow up - and do you really want your sons to be like him, and your daughters to marry a man like him? Just leave and file for child support. Edited yesterday at 11:52 AM by Els Quote
Author lonelybird Posted 21 hours ago Author Posted 21 hours ago Thank you, Els. I am surprised there are still someone remember me. This just happened, 1 day ago I believed our marriage is good, if not great. My kids are still young, need their father. Besides i need to think about if it is doable if we divorce. I would rather emotionally pull away from him and like strangers live in the same house except some activities involve kids. I don't want them feel threatened by divorce. lot of their friends' parents divorced and they fear that. Last night, I saw him chatting, so asked him what site he is on, so i can check out guys there. He told me the site and said he will not be jealous and 'have fun'! I did take a look at the site, basically you pay them to chat in private room, and then they will do sexual things for you. I didn't actually do it, just looked at that place, felt sick to my stomach. I was trying to make him realize what it feels like to be me. But heck with it. I am done! When he said "have fun", i lost respect for him. To be honest, that site and whole sex chatting thing is pathetic! Suddenly I realized that he and me are not at similar place emotionally and spiritually. I don't get what a person can get from the sex chatting thing. He stayed in the car to chat with a girl when me and two kids went into store shopping; refused to go out to play with kids while sitting at home chatting with a girl and trying to make her laugh. Looks like he is obsessed with a certain girl, said "she is different from all other naked girls" I just need to figure out how to do this minimally hurt and affect my kids. I don't fancy about love, so I don't think this will be much different if change to another man. Quote
Gebidozo Posted 20 hours ago Posted 20 hours ago 1 hour ago, lonelybird said: I would rather emotionally pull away from him and like strangers live in the same house except some activities involve kids. I don't want them feel threatened by divorce. lot of their friends' parents divorced and they fear that. Staying in a marriage where there is no love or respect will hurt your kids much more than divorce. It might just scar them for life and render them unable to have healthy relationships. Please, please do the right thing and file for divorce. Quote
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