Do any guys genuinely find their average looking wife pretty?

[Anonymous]

Most guys i read about say how they used to date hot girls but they had trash personalities so they saw them as ugly and so decided to go for an average wide instead who has a beautiful personality and her personality makes her beautiful. But do any guys just find average looking girls pretty too? Cuz i get personality is important but as an average looking girl myself i want to know if someone would genuinely find me beutiful for not only my personality but also my appearance. Like have you ever seen a girl who was genuinely average but you thought she was pretty even though you didnt get to know her personality yet? And i dont mean the “i think shes average bit shes actually considered pretty by most” kind of average, i mean genuinely average. 

[Gebidozo]

I don’t understand what “genuinely average” means. I don’t think in those terms. Either I like the way she looks, or I don’t. But even on that basic level, there must be some personality traits to attract me.

For example, if a woman looks stern or has a dull expression, I’d probably not feel any chemistry at all, regardless of how well-proportioned her face and body are. If she looks sensual and has an intelligent face, a playful, flirty, sexy expression, a kind smile, then those things might begin to attract me.

On a deeper level, when I’m in love with a woman, I find her irresistibly hot and blindingly beautiful. I absolutely don’t care how she is evaluated by other people.

Yes, looks matter too, but there is no way I’d be attracted to a pretty girl with a boring personality, low intelligence, and especially if she has moral and spiritual values different from mine.

So the whole “hot girls with trash personality” thing completely baffles me. To me, this phrase is self-contradictory. I can never consider a girl with a trash personality hot. And marrying a woman whose looks are just “average” in my eyes seems absurd to me. Marrying the hottest and sexiest girl with a great personality is the only plan that would make sense to me.

 

Edited Wednesday at 04:39 PM by Gebidozo

[flitzanu]

i mean, i see married couples that both are worse than average...well below average....and they seem to be happy and in love.

so, yeah, all sorts of people find each other attractive.

[ShySoul]

There is no such thing as good looking, average, unattractive etc. It's like the saying goes.. beauty is in the eye of the beholder. 

What is considered average to one person will be stunning to another. What one person thinks is "hot" someone else will have no interest in. It's all a matter of individual tastes and preferences. And that's just looking at the superficial side of things. When you really care about and love  person for who they are on the inside, they become more attractive to you on the outside as well.

There is also the fact that what is considered attractive or average varies from culture to culture and changes over the course of time. There is not, and has never been, a consensus on what "average" is and what falls above or below that line.

Just my experience, but the last time I liked someone based on appearance I was in Kindergarten. Since then it's always been their personality that shines and draws me in, making them more beautiful to me on the outside. 

When you love someone, you don't see them in terms of average or not. You see the whole package, and for you, that package becomes the most beautiful person of all - inside and out, no matter what.

[basil67]

I am perfectly average and so is my husband. I love him to bits, but love doesn't make average become pretty or handsome.   It's OK to be average

[justwhoiam]

On 7/16/2025 at 8:23 PM, flitzanu said:

i mean, i see married couples that both are worse than average...