"No romantic connection" rejection message yet again

[SurfCity]

7 hours ago, max3732 said:

I've had a very small number give me something specific and I was happy about it.

What was the feedback and did you change based on the advice you received?

[enterthevoid]

If there's no chemistry, there's nothing you can do about that.  You move on and talk to other women.

Be honest with her.

If you genuinely enjoy playing tennis with her and are 100% okay with being just friends, play with her.

But if you're just doing this for an ulterior motive (i.e. seeing if she has friends, or trying to change her mind), then that is dishonest and you shouldn't do that.

[enterthevoid]

Also, OP has mentioned that he's been rejected many times. 

And to be honest, I think his mindset toward things is part of the reason why. 

• Wanting to change peoples minds to get the outcome he wants rather than accepting a rejection.  
• Wanting to pretend to be someone's friend just in hopes she'll eventually date him

Sure, he may not be explicitly saying these on the dates themselves.  But he's still operating with this kind of mindset, and when you put on a mask, eventually you slip.  Eventually you do subtle things that indicate your real views even if you don't explicitly say them.

 

 

[Gebidozo]

7 hours ago, enterthevoid said:

Also, OP has mentioned that he's been rejected many times. 

And to be honest, I think his mindset toward things is part of the reason why. 

• Wanting to change peoples minds to get the outcome he wants rather than accepting a rejection.  
• Wanting to pretend to be someone's friend just in hopes she'll eventually date him

Sure, he may not be explicitly saying these on the dates themselves.  But he's still operating with this kind of mindset, and when you put on a mask, eventually you slip.  Eventually you do subtle things that indicate your real views even if you don't explicitly say them.

 

 

That’s exactly what I’ve been trying to explain to the OP.

OP, please understand that we can’t change other people. We can’t make them like us if they don’t. The only thing we can do is work on ourselves.