Would you be put off with a person with red cheeks?

[Anonymous]

My bf has always been very insecure about how he looks and presents himself. I not sure if he has a skin condition or what, but he has a lot of redness on his cheeks naturally. He's been open to me about it and I'm founding out just how much it affects him. Sometimes he does cancel plans for going out which makes me really sad for him. I try to comfort him about it when he gets occasional comments about it or when he vents to me, and I'm not really sure how I can help. He has done so many things to try to help it but nothing ever has worked.
I hate seeing him like this but I really like the way he looks and it does look adorable to me and I've never saw it as a downside to his looks.

Do you have any opinions this? People with something similar, have you experienced this before? I love him and I just hate how self conscious he gets about it

[ShyViolet]

Well has he ever tried going to a doctor or dermatologist about it to find out if it's something like rosacea?

[Sanch62]

I wouldn't bring my partner results of such a poll of strangers. It can come off as a dismissive message, like, "Nobody cares enough about you to be bothered by something that bothers YOU..." and worse, "...including me, I just want my social life back."

Instead, I'd offer partner some options, such as, "If you're willing to see a dermatologist who can treat this, I'd be willing to bring you there and stay with you." Or, "I found this lightweight tinted serum (Revlon makes a great one) that goes on almost sheer, it disappears into the skin, but it tones down the red in my face. Want to try it?"

No matter how you slice this, your partner's issue is his own to manage. Input from strangers is not likely to be comforting, while a dermatologist can either determine a skin condition or otherwise refer BF to a cardiologist to rule out a potential heart condition or high blood pressure.