Final Heaven Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Okay well my 1st term for my college just started like last week, today we were designated our timetable and classes. Like they say the best part about college is making new friends, and I did make quite a few friends mostly guys at first and then eventually we went on a discussion about which girl was the hottest in the class. Eventually all of us selected one which we would want to get to know better as an addition to our group of friends. But soon after it was a disaster, because my new found friends decided to spread it around that I was attracted to that girl, not that I wasn't but I was thinking about taking it slow and becoming friends first with her first. Because of these my friends are always trying to link her to me, and it is becoming so obvious that I have a thing for her. Like for example when I am walkin next to her they would just push me towards her, and everytime when someone calls her name or something they will just shout out my name... This for me is getting out of hand, because now even when I try talking to her she just act like she isn't even interested in making friends. Is there anyway to turn this the other way around?
ddnnee Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 I think by now she has placed you in the "not even friends zone". ignore and move on. and man... aren't you guys in college? if you ignore it, the jokes will get old and die away.
Author Final Heaven Posted January 14, 2006 Author Posted January 14, 2006 Oh well thats what I figured too, it's kinda sad that things have to end up this way when we haven't even started to know each other. What do you mean by "aren't you guys in college?"
slubberdegullion Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Give it some time, FH. Just let things slide for a few months to let the "newness" of the situation wear off. Then approach her again. But between now and then, keep your distance from her; once you get slammed into the purgatory of the friend zone, it's a mighty tough place to get out of.
Author Final Heaven Posted January 14, 2006 Author Posted January 14, 2006 I guess ddnnee is right, I am probably now in the "not even friends zone". Then again whats done is done there is nothing I can do about it.But thanks anyway for all the quick replies. Anyone have any other brilliant ideas just post it, I am all ears..
prohacker64 Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Honestly, I think your friends are just really immaure, but yeah I was sort of in a similar situation where my feelings about her had been publicized (at least it was my own fault, not my friend's), and once that happens in a non-friend status she'll really just ignore you. I suggest you move on. It's been about 10 months since last valentine's day, i don't care for her, she doesn't care for me, it's all good (theoretically).
Blackard Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Tell your friends to shadap. They are acting like grade school kids for keriest sakes. Forget them. What is her reaction? Is she interested? If she is, you will get definite signs. If she is not, move on. At college, women are a dime a dozen. Forget that "taking it slow" garbage. Hook up, go out, get laid, have fun. You are in college for goodness sakes. Believe it or not, THIS is the best time of your life. The fun goes dramatically downhill after this. Don't waste a second pinning away over some chickie.
Author Final Heaven Posted January 14, 2006 Author Posted January 14, 2006 Bah I don't actually blame my new found friends for what they did cause I am 23 and I am like 5 years their senior. I guess this kind of thing is actually all new to them. But I know from past experience what will happen if your affections for a certain girl is publicized too soon. I understand that I am in college and it's time to have fun. But those times for me are long past gone. I woke up one day and decided its time to do something with my life. Cooking is my passion, thats the main reason I enrolled myself into the current college and course. At the same time I hope to find someone who share the same passion as me, cause I am tired of all those 5-6 months relationship which eventually turn sour. I can say that I am just too bored to devote and commit into something which ain't gonna last. Her reactions are just vague,but its really hard to tell what they are thinking especially in situation like this. I tried cutting it short in hopes of salvaging whats left by asking her and her friends if they would like to join us for drinks, but she just declined saying that her dad is coming to pick her up. So I just said why don't you just call your dad and tell him you would be having drinks with us etc and she was like err hmm ok. Eventually soon after class finished I just waved and notify where we would be drinking. And I just went on with my bunch of friends, though I hope that she would come, I knew then and there chances are minimal.
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