Dandoe70 Posted July 8 Posted July 8 I have been talking to a girl online even though I know she is engaged. I want to end it but I just can’t let go for some reason. I feel I am being led on. She is asking for money so she can move out. Just have a feeling I am being played. Quote
Sony12 Posted July 8 Posted July 8 Anytime someone asks you for money end things immediately. If you haven't even met her yet you don't really know what the situation is with her. She is likely a scammer and you probably aren't the only guy online that she is trying to get money from. 3 Quote
ShySoul Posted July 9 Posted July 9 Don't give money to someone you don't really know online. My mother was scammed a little over a year ago and it can be easy to be fooled. If it is a scam, they will stop once they see they can't get what they want. And if it isn't a scam, then her staying in touch despite knowing she won't get anything would demonstrate you aren't being played. Quote
ShySoul Posted July 9 Posted July 9 Outside of the money, why do you think she is leading you on? Have you noticed lies in what she says? How long have you been talking? Why is she still engaged if she wants to move out? Is she trying to get with you while engaged? Or is it just talking? Talking to someone engaged or even married isn't a sign of being played. There could be real issues going on. It's hard to know the truth and what the other person is experiencing. Overall, look at the whole situation. Trust your instincts and see if you feel you can trust her. See if there is some kind of foundation of friendship. See if she will back off from asking for the money and not push you into anything you aren't comfortable with. How she acts is a good indication of how she feels. If it's a consistent push for money and unloading on you issues, probably not something to be a part of. If it's more fair and balanced between the two of you, her not pushing and just talking, then maybe it's okay to talk. Best person to judge this is you. Good luck. Quote
MsJayne Posted July 9 Posted July 9 1. You are not "dating " someone who you've never met in person. 2. Any person, any person, who asks you for money in a dating scenario is a scammer. Ignore this at your own peril. Get on YouTube and do a search for "people who have been scammed through online dating" - you will find hundreds of videos with first-hand information on how these low-lives operate. All they need is a gullible patsy and away they go. 3. Don't be a gullible patsy. Quote
ShySoul Posted July 11 Posted July 11 Why do you say you are dating her? What have the conversations been like? It's possible to date or have relationships online without meeting in person. My brother started seeing someone online and they were a couple before they meet in person. They have been together for 24 years now. I've known people who were couples and only knew each other online, with neither side trying to scam or rip off the other. So don't think that online automatically means scam. However, be cautious. If they are engaged to someone else, let them work that out first before getting to serious. If they constantly ask for money, be careful and don't give it. If the person is real and honest, they won't have a problem with that and will take their own steps to move forward in their life before this goes anywhere else. If they don't, it will naturally fade. Quote
Sanch62 Posted July 12 Posted July 12 You're not 'dating'; you've never met. You're engaging in an online fantasy, and yes, you are being scammed for money. Quote
ShyViolet Posted July 15 Posted July 15 This is so absolutely ridiculous. As others have said, you are not "dating" some stranger who you've never met in person. And the fact that she's asked you for money...... common sense should tell you that this is a scam. Quote
Carlston Posted July 15 Posted July 15 3 hours ago, ShyViolet said: This is so absolutely ridiculous. As others have said, you are not "dating" some stranger who you've never met in person. And the fact that she's asked you for money...... common sense should tell you that this is a scam. And yet there are thousands just like him. Desperate and lonely guys that flock to a fake profile like bugs to a carcass. These scams work because there are lots naive and vulnerable people out there who fall for it. Quote
BaileyB Posted August 2 Posted August 2 (edited) On 7/8/2025 at 2:56 AM, Dandoe70 said: She is asking for money so she can move out. Just have a feeling I am being played. You are, without a doubt. When someone that you don’t know personally asks you for money - you block that person. The answer is a hard “No.” On 7/8/2025 at 2:56 AM, Dandoe70 said: I feel I am being led on. You are responsible for engaging with this person who you know to be in a committed relationship. You know the situation here - you can’t play dumb and say “I feel like I’m being led on…”Take responsibility for your own decisions here - you wouldn’t be choosing to talk with this person if there wasn’t something in it for you… Edited August 2 by BaileyB Quote
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