She told others she "rejected" me but is now flirting and touching me again

[The_CROW]

This coworker used to flirt with me heavily and we'd be pretty touchy feely at work (young people in our 20s and this is not a very serious job)

She'd come around to talk to me every day and would ask me questions about myself and basically everything a girl does when she is attracted to you.

I asked her for her number and she said "I can't give you my number, I don't really talk to guys" at which point I could have come up with a witty comeback as this was a sh*t test, but I was tired of her BS and just said OK and we went our separate ways.

Couple weeks later I see her making out with some guy in a mall parking lot.

She would still come around and try to talk to me but I would kind of give her the cold shoulder as in I wouldn't pay as much attention to her as before and I think she took the hint and eased off of me.

One day I see her and another girl from work in the hallway, and I just passed by without saying anything. Out of the corner of my eye I saw her whisper something in this other girl's ear and later told her what happened between me and her.

This girl dropped hints when speaking around me that she basically knows what happened and even so much as told me "I heard about you being a Casanova here at work" which confirms to me this girl told her about her "rejecting" me.

Now the other coworker that was told this is a huge yapper and I would not be surprised that she has spread this out to at least 5-10 other people in our company, I am almost sure of it.

This was 3-4 months ago, I found out her and the guy from the mall didn't work out, so she's back to flirting with me, looking at me from afar and touching me when she is around me flirtatiously.

She's slept with someone else from work last summer and she's very good looking so I was thinking would it be worth it to try again with her, or are these the qualities of a terrible person and I should stay far far away from her?

[MsJayne]

Yes, give her a big miss. Ignore her good looks and see beyond that. Behind the pretty face is an attention-seeking airhead who tried to make you look foolish to your co-workers by spreading crap about you. Think hard about what sort of person does this, (immature and spiteful), and don't invite it into your life. When she's being flirty with you, don't play along, be polite but distant, and by doing that you will be 'rejecting' her. Be warm and friendly to other female colleagues so that when she tries to bad-mouth you again it won't land. 

[smackie9]

If she was ok about spreading gossip about her rejecting you, then you best be staying away. She is immature, bad news and you could end up in the rumour mill again but ends up reaching your boss's ear or she could get mad, make up some story and report you to HR. She's an attention %^&*#. She will chew you up and spit you out like chewing gum. 

Edited Sunday at 05:07 PM by smackie9

[Sanch62]

21 hours ago, The_CROW said:

I was thinking would it be worth it to try again with her, or are these the qualities of a terrible person and I should stay far far away from her?

It wouldn't make you a terrible person, but it would make you kinda dumb and tone-deaf to potential consequences.

You've already learned that she's a gossip, and you can't control her narrative. So she's capable of turning any simple interaction into whatever drama she wants to promote for her own purposes. What if she decides to turn any mutually consensual encounter between you into a story that you put a date rape drug into her drink?

Think with your brain. 

[swirlingcloud]

Agree with the others, she's trouble. I wouldn't give her a second chance.