Getting over the idea of ever dating somebody, how did you get through it?

[Anonymous]

I thought she and I could become a thing, but I’m starting to accept nothing will ever happen we’re friends. Some of my friends think she treats me “like a wife”, and she may come around to me in time, but we both  have a lot on our plates studying for and building our careers.

She’s independent and not very touchy. She has allowed me to guide her through doers, etc.; on a few instances she has taped me on the shoulder brushed up along side while we walked some where or we where studying. A few times we’ve gone out in public ( not often because we live an hour drive from each other, school is kind of in the middle). Each time she usually lets me pay for lunch, pick up snacks for us etc.

I know I’m under a huge pressure with school and my living situation, and she must have the problems as well. We spent a lot of time studying together but lately we have been involved with pass our exams ( mine is tomorrow and hers is in a week), and we now have more individual physical projects to turn in. We still have a year to complete our course. 
 

how have you dealt with forgetting your feelings and move on?

A large part of me wants to move on but part of me likes the challenge of seeing where it go, but is getting lame.

thoughts?

[basil67]

Have you ever tried saying "I really like you.  Can I take on a date?"

[ShySoul]

I've been the person who passed up on opportunities and wondered what could have been. Don't do it. If you like her, say something. See what could happen. Even if it doesn't go anywhere, it's better to go out swinging. 

You don't just forget your feelings. It's not a lightswitch you turn on or off. Feelings are what they are. If you have feelings for someone, you have to ride it out as long as it takes for them to subside. You either take a chance and see what happens, or you wait it out in silence, wondering about her. The waiting game can be torture. So why not make a move and ask her out? Say how you feel and be honest. Worse case you will have an answer and it can help quicken your healing and moving on. Not that it won't still hurt, but at least you will have an answer. And there is always the chance it could lead to more.