Getting Tons of Attention on app – Genuine Connections or Just Curiosity?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone!

I'm a Thai woman, born and raised here, and I wanted to share something that’s been on my mind since yesterday — honestly, I’m still trying to process it and would really appreciate some input from others who’ve used dating apps or have experience with cross-cultural connections.

So here’s the deal:
I’m your average, everyday woman — not an Instagram model or anything remotely flashy. I’ve used apps like ThaiFriendly, Tinder, and Bumble in the past, but I never really got many matches or found anything meaningful, so I eventually deleted them. They just didn’t feel right anymore.

But last night, out of curiosity (and boredom), I downloaded Higo: Local Meet Global, after a good friend told me about it. She said it’s more than a dating app — it's also for finding travel buddies, language exchange partners, or just interesting people to talk to from around the world.

I figured why not give it a shot?
Within 12 hours, I had over 100 likes and messages — mostly from men overseas. I’m talking about people from Europe, the US, the Middle East, East Asia… literally everywhere. It was wild. I’ve never experienced anything like that on any app before.

But here’s where I’m feeling a bit conflicted:
I made it very clear on my profile that I’m not into hookups, sugar relationships, or anything transactional. I’m genuinely open to meaningful, respectful connections — whether romantic or even just as friends to exchange cultures and perspectives. But now I’m wondering:

Is all this attention genuine interest? Or is it just the “exotic local woman” fantasy playing out?

I’d love some honest thoughts on this. Especially:

1. Are men on Higo really this drawn to Thai (or Asian) women in general?
2. Could being a local woman be why I’m getting so many messages, or is this app more often used for casual/short-term things, even if it doesn’t look that way at first?
3. How do you spot someone who’s actually sincere vs. just looking for a fling while passing through?
4. Is it worth continuing on Higo, or should I focus more on offline connections here? (Though I do have a soft spot for international guys — I love exploring different cultures and ways of thinking.)

I’m not trying to criticize anyone’s approach to dating — I respect different cultures and intentions. I just want to better understand what I’m stepping into, and avoid misreading the situation.

If any women (or even guys!) have used Higo in Thailand or had cross-cultural dating experiences, I’d really appreciate your insight — especially on how to navigate this with clarity and confidence.

Thanks in advance
Let’s keep it honest and respectful!

[Sony12]

99% of the time messages from people overseas from where you are currently at are scams.

[ShySoul]

Don't have experience with this app in particular, but from what I know of most apps, it is best to be cautious. Scams, bots, people just wanting causual hookups (many won't read the profile or will ignore it), people just messaging as many people as possible to increase there odds, the idea of the "exotic" woman... there are all kinds of reasons people might respond. And sadly as a female you are more likely to get those responses.

If you want to use the app, or any of them, take your time. It might take many responses that go nowhere or disappear quickly when they realize they won't get the quick thing they wanted. But a genuine person will not rush or pressure you for anything. Sincere people will focus on getting to know you. It's hard to say exactly, but I think there is this gut feeling that you get. You are comfortable just talking to them and things progress naturally at whatever pace is comfortable for the two of you. 

Do what you think is right for you. If you want to use it just to meet people of different cultures, it's worth a try. Just be careful and don't give out personal information. Use common sense and be patient to weed out the scams or inappropriate people. You seem to have an idea of what is acceptable and not acceptable for you, so stick to it. Likewise, if it begins to feel like it's not worth the effort, stop. Pursue whatever method of meeting people makes you happy and you enjoy the most. When it stops being fun, probably the sign to stop doing it.

Good luck. 

 

[smackie9]

Just like on any app....you are fresh meat on the market. These apps shoves you right out there on everyone's suggestion list.