Girlfriend Isn't Willing To Talk About Our Issues.

[Els]

13 hours ago, AnonymousK said:

Every girl I've ever been with seemed to be into playing some stupid bs game, which is what gives me the automatic assumption she may be doing something similar. I may be overreacting, but since I've told her about my trust issues, I kinda think she's trying to rile me up. 

Sounds good. I'm tempted to walk away, and go with my next option, but something tells me she'll try to keep me hanging. 

Your "next option"??

Reckon you might be projecting a bit onto her here? And by "a bit" I mean "A LOT", by the way...

[basil67]

7 hours ago, AnonymousK said:

Sounds like I'm the one that's messed up according to most of you. So, shouldn't she at least tell me to eat a bullet if she's done? How am I supposed to know if I should wait for the conversation or just walk away?

I know you can't understand how your words sound, but if someone told me to go be with another guy if I want, I'd actually consider that conversation to be a breakup.  I can't see that any further conversation would be warranted.

If you don't want to break up with her, reach out and apologise.  And get yourself into therapy so that you can a)learn to deal with your abandonment issues and b) learn to not torpedo a new relationship because you felt a bit uncomfortable

Edited Tuesday at 09:15 PM by basil67

[basil67]

13 hours ago, AnonymousK said:

So, shouldn't she at least tell me to eat a bullet if she's done?

WTF dude?   I understand you're trying to say "shouldn't she at least tell me she no longer wants to be with me if she's done"".  But even having the phrase of 'eat a bullet' in your vocabulary for anything other than describing how you were held up at the convenience store is scary s***.  

I'm also concerned that you've mentioned a few times that she's aware you have trust issues.  Are you aware this is not something that others should have to work around?  Rather, it's on you to sort yourself out. 

I can't recommend therapy strongly enough to you.  When you're there, please focus on

1. working through your abandonment issues

2. be open to considering if you contributed to any of the people in your life walking away from you, and what you could have done differently

3. learn to differentiate when you should speak up with a concern and when you talk yourself down

4. And please, please work on the language you're using so that you don't push others away.   Because if you continue as you are, people WILL keep walking away

Edited Wednesday at 02:48 AM by basil67