My_Other_I Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Hey guys! For all of you outthere who are hurting and feel hopeless, helpless, depressed, anxious, etc - for all of you who feel that life will never be the same, I would like to share my personal experience and show you that good things come out of your personal pain and trauma. I am approaching 30, and several month ago I had gone through the most horrific (in my eyes) emotional experience. I broke up with my bf and thought life ended. I could not see how it could ever be the same, how it could ever be good, or how I could ever be with anyone else. I went through emotional rollecoaster, sleepless nights, lost too much weight, experienced anxiety and panic attacts, etc. I saw no way out. After a month of that I finally had it. I realized that how I feel is my personal choice, and that I sure do not like the way I feel and the way I waste my life. I kicked my feelings in the butt and started a hard work on myself. I mean HARD. I started to read a lot of books and doing things I had never done before. I started to explore and expand my personal boundries and to improve as a person. It's hard to explain. At times I still wasn't sure if what I was doing was any good, but after few months, few beaten fears, lots of patience and positive attitude, my life is now better than ever. I've gained independance, strenght and will (besides other things) I guess the point I'm trying to make here is that it is all about choices. Once the worst part is over, it is YOUR choice to feel better or worse, and it is YOUR CHOICE to improve and move on. There is no reason to dwell on the past and hope for the future. You can try to get your second chance, but in the meantime it is helpful to work on yourself and be happy while single. Life is most likely not going to be the same. With some work it will be better. Acceptance is very powerful. I had to learn to accept. When you learn about yourself, you also learn about others. Good luck to you all, my heart goes to you.
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