To send a pic or no? UPDATED

[Sugarspice25]

4 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

Does this guy have a history of dating much younger women? Does he have a good job and is fairly well off?

Men who date women young enough to be their own kid often aren't doing it for a love connection. Just like women who date men young enough to be their own kid usually aren't doing it for anything potentially serious.

Not sure as I met him through mutual friends. He's an airbnb owner. He is pretty well off yes.  Has 1 kid 10yrs old, never married.

Edited Saturday at 11:24 PM by Sugarspice25
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[helloladies21]

You're overthinking this. He's interested. That's it.

It's really not an outrageous request either.

Do it only if you're comfortable. My prediction is that you'll send one if you're interested enough. If not, you're just not that into him.

[Sugarspice25]

13 minutes ago, helloladies21 said:

You're overthinking this. He's interested. That's it.

It's really not an outrageous request either.

Do it only if you're comfortable. My prediction is that you'll send one if you're interested enough. If not, you're just not that into him.

Read the rest of the thread..its not just about selfies.  I sent him one but then it went into asking me to sleep with him on the date. Please read to the end.

[helloladies21]

1 minute ago, Sugarspice25 said:

Read the rest of the thread..its not just about selfies.  I sent him one but then it went into asking me to sleep with him on the date. Please read to the end.

Oopsie sorry. Now that is weird. Sometimes the only way to find out for certain is if you go through the motions of it. Dating is hard in 2025.

[Sugarspice25]

Just now, helloladies21 said:

Oopsie sorry. Now that is weird. Sometimes the only way to find out for certain is if you go through the motions of it. Dating is hard in 2025.

Tell me about it ....

[Gebidozo]

14 hours ago, Sugarspice25 said:

Because to me it felt like a million times in the moment. Also when I told him that I prefer to wait and even better if we're exclusive he goes" so your last relationship was 1yr ago and you haven't slept with anyone? How do you do that?"

I thought that was a rude question to ask too.

The more I read this thread, the more I think that you’re still very young and probably the best thing this guy should do is back off.

You guys are clearly not on the same page in all things concerning sex and romance. He is obviously experienced and perhaps overly satiated, possibly hardened and cynical. You are obviously not very experienced and have a different attitude to sex.

I think it might not be a good idea for you to continue dating this guy. At any rate, please be careful.

[Sugarspice25]

7 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

The more I read this thread, the more I think that you’re still very young and probably the best thing this guy should do is back off.

You guys are clearly not on the same page in all things concerning sex and romance. He is obviously experienced and perhaps overly satiated, possibly hardened and cynical. You are obviously not very experienced and have a different attitude to sex.

I think it might not be a good idea for you to continue dating this guy. At any rate, please be careful.

Why do you say that? Just because Im not ready to sleep with him on a second date?

[basil67]

1 hour ago, Sugarspice25 said:

Why do you say that? Just because Im not ready to sleep with him on a second date?

This is not the first time you've gotten offended at advice which was not remotely a criticism of you.  Why so defensive? 

@Gebidozo was rightly pointing out an imbalance of power caused by a significant age difference, different morals and ethics, and him pressuring you to have sex before you're ready.  I'm sure he's smooth, can hold a good conversation and has a lot of money, but he is also selfish and demanding.  He is the kind of man which parents warn their daughters about.  

 

[Gebidozo]

2 hours ago, Sugarspice25 said:

Why do you say that? Just because Im not ready to sleep with him on a second date?

No, actually the opposite, because you’re ready to give in to his pressure.

I know something about relationships between young, not very experienced women and older men. I was the man in more than one such relationship. And I’m telling you that a predatory mindset of the man in question is often something the young woman doesn’t notice at all because she fancies the older man and has fallen under his thrall. In fact, he may not even notice that himself, but it is quite obvious to everyone else.