To send a pic or no?

[Sugarspice25]

I went on a nice date with this Man that I like so far. We had a nice dinner and then went for dessert. He travels a lot for work so our next date is in a week from now. Thing is today he sent me a selfie of himself saying good morning from New York and he's asking me if he can get a photo of me before I go out tonight (going to a dinner with the girls). We only had 1 date mind you so I don't understand why Men need photos this early? Should I send him one? Is it too early? Am I overthinking? If I want to decline what would I say to not make him think that I don't like him? Help please.

[basil67]

While I can't speak for Men, people tend to want photos of the other when they are keen.  Assuming you've got your clothes on in the photo, why are you concerned about sending him a quick selfie?

[Sugarspice25]

10 minutes ago, basil67 said:

While I can't speak for Men, people tend to want photos of the other when they are keen.  Assuming you've got your clothes on in the photo, why are you concerned about sending him a quick selfie?

Of course I'm not going to send a nude. I was just wondering if it's normal this early? 

[ShyViolet]

Maybe it's just me but I think this is kind of a weird request from someone you've been on one date with.

[Sugarspice25]

Just now, ShyViolet said:

Maybe it's just me but I think this is kind of a weird request from someone you've been on one date with.

Yeah that's what I'm thinking too.  What does this mean? I mean on the date he was a gentleman and the way he texts its always respectful. 

[basil67]

1 hour ago, Sugarspice25 said:

Of course I'm not going to send a nude. I was just wondering if it's normal this early? 

Plenty of people do send nude pics early, so I wanted to give context to my response.  
 

As for normal, I would say there is no normal.  A first date can end up in bed - or blocked - or anything in between. My husband and I were of the first date sex type, so in comparison, I think your guy asking for a selfie is sweet

[Sugarspice25]

20 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Plenty of people do send nude pics early, so I wanted to give context to my response.  
 

As for normal, I would say there is no normal.  A first date can end up in bed - or blocked - or anything in between. My husband and I were of the first date sex type, so in comparison, I think your guy asking for a selfie is sweet

Im so happy for you that first date sex turned into your husband. I will send him one.

[Gaeta]

Men are visual creatures, send him a selfie, it's not a big deal. Let your personality shine through the photos. Make it light and fun.

[Els]

9 hours ago, Sugarspice25 said:

today he sent me a selfie of himself saying good morning from New York and he's asking me if he can get a photo of me before I go out tonight (going to a dinner with the girls).

I think it'd be weird if he asked out of the blue after just 1 date, but considering that he sent you one of himself just beforehand, it sounds fairly normal. Is there a reason you're uncomfortable with it?

[enterthevoid]

It's not a big deal.  If you want to send him a selfie, do it. 

If not, don't.  If he asks you for a selfie and you don't want to give one, you can just say "You can see what I look like during our next date :)" or something like that in a positive tone.

Edited Sunday at 10:38 AM by enterthevoid

[Sony12]

People sending selfies to each other is completely normal. Just don't let it progress to sending nude pics or allowing him to record you if/when you two do have sex 

There are entire sites dedicated to people posting their own material and all it takes is creating a profile and then uploading your own videos and images. 

[smackie9]

You do what makes you feel comfortable. If you really like this guy then sure why not.

[Gina2005]

I would send the pic, probably he just wants to see how you dressed for going out.

See my avatar? I took that pic before my bf picked me up at my place for the first time, and we had our first kiss that very same date.

[Sugarspice25]

11 hours ago, Els said:

I think it'd be weird if he asked out of the blue after just 1 date, but considering that he sent you one of himself just beforehand, it sounds fairly normal. Is there a reason you're uncomfortable with it?

No I just hate when Men ask when we're not exclusive that's all lol

[Sugarspice25]

3 hours ago, Gina2005 said:

I would send the pic, probably he just wants to see how you dressed for going out.

See my avatar? I took that pic before my bf picked me up at my place for the first time, and we had our first kiss that very same date.

Awww so cute 

[FredEire]

I think it's pretty normal, it's a sign he's interested. If he was asking you for nudes after one date it might be a different story, but this seems like nothing to worry about imo.

[basil67]

1 hour ago, Sugarspice25 said:

No I just hate when Men ask when we're not exclusive that's all lol

Meh, if someone wouldn't match my efforts of sweet little things while we aren't yet exclusive, we wouldn't get to be exclusive!   

I agree with @FredEire, it's not like he's asking you to send nudes...... or spend a whole lot of money or help him move house this weekend.  His request is low effort and low risk.