Sugarspice25 Posted Saturday at 11:15 PM Posted Saturday at 11:15 PM I went on a nice date with this Man that I like so far. We had a nice dinner and then went for dessert. He travels a lot for work so our next date is in a week from now. Thing is today he sent me a selfie of himself saying good morning from New York and he's asking me if he can get a photo of me before I go out tonight (going to a dinner with the girls). We only had 1 date mind you so I don't understand why Men need photos this early? Should I send him one? Is it too early? Am I overthinking? If I want to decline what would I say to not make him think that I don't like him? Help please. Quote
basil67 Posted Sunday at 12:03 AM Posted Sunday at 12:03 AM While I can't speak for Men, people tend to want photos of the other when they are keen. Assuming you've got your clothes on in the photo, why are you concerned about sending him a quick selfie? Quote
Author Sugarspice25 Posted Sunday at 12:14 AM Author Posted Sunday at 12:14 AM 10 minutes ago, basil67 said: While I can't speak for Men, people tend to want photos of the other when they are keen. Assuming you've got your clothes on in the photo, why are you concerned about sending him a quick selfie? Of course I'm not going to send a nude. I was just wondering if it's normal this early? Quote
ShyViolet Posted Sunday at 12:38 AM Posted Sunday at 12:38 AM Maybe it's just me but I think this is kind of a weird request from someone you've been on one date with. 2 Quote
Author Sugarspice25 Posted Sunday at 12:40 AM Author Posted Sunday at 12:40 AM Just now, ShyViolet said: Maybe it's just me but I think this is kind of a weird request from someone you've been on one date with. Yeah that's what I'm thinking too. What does this mean? I mean on the date he was a gentleman and the way he texts its always respectful. Quote
basil67 Posted Sunday at 01:45 AM Posted Sunday at 01:45 AM 1 hour ago, Sugarspice25 said: Of course I'm not going to send a nude. I was just wondering if it's normal this early? Plenty of people do send nude pics early, so I wanted to give context to my response. As for normal, I would say there is no normal. A first date can end up in bed - or blocked - or anything in between. My husband and I were of the first date sex type, so in comparison, I think your guy asking for a selfie is sweet 1 Quote
Author Sugarspice25 Posted Sunday at 02:08 AM Author Posted Sunday at 02:08 AM 20 minutes ago, basil67 said: Plenty of people do send nude pics early, so I wanted to give context to my response. As for normal, I would say there is no normal. A first date can end up in bed - or blocked - or anything in between. My husband and I were of the first date sex type, so in comparison, I think your guy asking for a selfie is sweet Im so happy for you that first date sex turned into your husband. I will send him one. Quote
Gaeta Posted Sunday at 02:47 AM Posted Sunday at 02:47 AM Men are visual creatures, send him a selfie, it's not a big deal. Let your personality shine through the photos. Make it light and fun. 1 Quote
Els Posted Sunday at 08:20 AM Posted Sunday at 08:20 AM 9 hours ago, Sugarspice25 said: today he sent me a selfie of himself saying good morning from New York and he's asking me if he can get a photo of me before I go out tonight (going to a dinner with the girls). I think it'd be weird if he asked out of the blue after just 1 date, but considering that he sent you one of himself just beforehand, it sounds fairly normal. Is there a reason you're uncomfortable with it? Quote
enterthevoid Posted Sunday at 10:38 AM Posted Sunday at 10:38 AM (edited) It's not a big deal. If you want to send him a selfie, do it. If not, don't. If he asks you for a selfie and you don't want to give one, you can just say "You can see what I look like during our next date :)" or something like that in a positive tone. Edited Sunday at 10:38 AM by enterthevoid 1 Quote
Sony12 Posted Sunday at 12:34 PM Posted Sunday at 12:34 PM People sending selfies to each other is completely normal. Just don't let it progress to sending nude pics or allowing him to record you if/when you two do have sex There are entire sites dedicated to people posting their own material and all it takes is creating a profile and then uploading your own videos and images. 1 Quote
smackie9 Posted Sunday at 02:46 PM Posted Sunday at 02:46 PM You do what makes you feel comfortable. If you really like this guy then sure why not. 1 Quote
Gina2005 Posted Sunday at 04:31 PM Posted Sunday at 04:31 PM I would send the pic, probably he just wants to see how you dressed for going out. See my avatar? I took that pic before my bf picked me up at my place for the first time, and we had our first kiss that very same date. 1 Quote
Author Sugarspice25 Posted Sunday at 08:14 PM Author Posted Sunday at 08:14 PM 11 hours ago, Els said: I think it'd be weird if he asked out of the blue after just 1 date, but considering that he sent you one of himself just beforehand, it sounds fairly normal. Is there a reason you're uncomfortable with it? No I just hate when Men ask when we're not exclusive that's all lol Quote
Author Sugarspice25 Posted Sunday at 08:15 PM Author Posted Sunday at 08:15 PM 3 hours ago, Gina2005 said: I would send the pic, probably he just wants to see how you dressed for going out. See my avatar? I took that pic before my bf picked me up at my place for the first time, and we had our first kiss that very same date. Awww so cute Quote
FredEire Posted Sunday at 09:46 PM Posted Sunday at 09:46 PM I think it's pretty normal, it's a sign he's interested. If he was asking you for nudes after one date it might be a different story, but this seems like nothing to worry about imo. 1 Quote
basil67 Posted Sunday at 09:55 PM Posted Sunday at 09:55 PM 1 hour ago, Sugarspice25 said: No I just hate when Men ask when we're not exclusive that's all lol Meh, if someone wouldn't match my efforts of sweet little things while we aren't yet exclusive, we wouldn't get to be exclusive! I agree with @FredEire, it's not like he's asking you to send nudes...... or spend a whole lot of money or help him move house this weekend. His request is low effort and low risk. 2 Quote
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