Relationship

[Choo42]

Hey,

 

Me and my girlfriend (age 30) and I have been dating for over two years. Everything has been going well, but we only really get to see each other on the weekend, except when we go away. One thing that's always bugged me is that she constantly just falls asleep. I don't mind this when we normally meet up because she has had work etc. But even when we go away, she won't stay out late in a bar or anything, and when we go back to watch a film or something, she is straight to sleep. Even if it is 10pm. I love her, but I feel like I'm missing out on my life, and we don't even end up having sex because of it. Am I being unreasonable? 

Edited May 29 by Choo42
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[Gebidozo]

Unless she has problems with her sleep that require medical attention, I don’t see why this is an issue. So she goes to sleep at 10pm. She probably wakes up early, or her organism just requires that sleep schedule. My partner normally goes to sleep about that same time.

Maybe you guys should work on seeing each other more often, and not only in the evening when she is sleepy?

 

 

[MsJayne]

Stay in, have dinner early, and go to bed at 8pm and hit her up for a 'special cuddle' early, then watch a movie in bed, and that way it won't matter if she falls asleep. 

[Els]

I mean, depending on culture, 10pm can be quite a normal time to fall asleep. I know many fully grown adults who sleep at 9pm every single day! I also once had an upstairs neighbour who slept at 7pm and woke up at 4am, including on weekends. Unfortunately there was so little noise insulation between the units that I was fully aware of her every move, and it didn't help that she was fond of doing a full house clean most days of the week from 4am to 5am, lol.

But anyway. Why can't you just have sex earlier if you're together all weekend? You don't HAVE to only have sex right before bed, you know...

Edited May 31 by Els

[ShyViolet]

If you feel that she is a boring person, that you're missing out on life because she doesn't want to do things as much as you do, then it wouldn't be unreasonable for you to decide that she's just not a good match for you.