Am i wrong for waiting to tell him i am pregnant

[Anonymous]

I found out i was pregnant about a month ago. I waited to tell the guy I’m sleeping with mainly because the last two times i was pregnant I’ve had a miscarriage. 

So i told him i was pregnant yesterday and i also told him I’ve known for almost 4 weeks and he seemed upset that i waited because he said you were supposed to tell me things like that as soon as you find out don’t keep things like that from me

[stillafool]

Does he want you to get an abortion?  That is the only reason I can think of that he needed to know you were pregnant as soon as you found out.  Why did you wait 4 weeks to tell him.  Not saying you were wrong, just curious.

[Kelo55]

23 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Does he want you to get an abortion?  That is the only reason I can think of that he needed to know you were pregnant as soon as you found out.  Why did you wait 4 weeks to tell him.  Not saying you were wrong, just curious.

I waited because i had a false positive before and he said he didn’t want more kids but it was my choice to whether i wanted to keep the baby or not 

[stillafool]

1 hour ago, Kelo55 said:

I waited because i had a false positive before and he said he didn’t want more kids but it was my choice to whether i wanted to keep the baby or not 

Were you on birth control and this happened?

[Anonymous]

9 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Were you on birth control and this happened?

Yes

[stillafool]

6 minutes ago, Anonymous said:

Yes

So I guess you waited to tell him also because you knew this was not what he wanted.  Is he willing to help you raise the child?

[Anonymous]

17 minutes ago, stillafool said:

So I guess you waited to tell him also because you knew this was not what he wanted.  Is he willing to help you raise the child?

Yes even though I’m on bc he doesn’t wear condoms so we are both at fault. He told me to let him know what i decide to do if i decided to go through with the pregnancy so I’ve been thinking 

[stillafool]

1 hour ago, Anonymous said:

He told me to let him know what i decide to do if i decided to go through with the pregnancy so I’ve been thinking 

Does that mean he's going to help you raise the child if you keep it?

[Anonymous]

4 hours ago, stillafool said:

Does that mean he's going to help you raise the child if you keep it?

I haven’t asked ive just been thinking before i say anything else

[BaileyB]

I think it’s time to have a serious discussion about the future of the relationship, whether he wants to be involved in raising the child, and what kind of financial support you would expect if you decide to keep the baby and the relationship ends/he does not want to be involved in raising the child. 

[ShyViolet]

On 5/29/2025 at 10:20 AM, Anonymous said:

I found out i was pregnant about a month ago. I waited to tell the guy I’m sleeping with mainly because the last two times i was pregnant I’ve had a miscarriage. 

Why do you keep getting pregnant this many times when it sounds like you are not in a stable relationship...

It's time to be more responsible with birth control.

[Anonymous]

3 hours ago, ShyViolet said:

Why do you keep getting pregnant this many times when it sounds like you are not in a stable relationship...

It's time to be more responsible with birth control.

I’ve only got pregnant once ?

[BaileyB]

On 5/29/2025 at 9:20 AM, Anonymous said:

the last two times i was pregnant I’ve had a miscarriage. 

This is your third pregnancy, is it not?

[ShyViolet]

8 hours ago, Anonymous said:

I’ve only got pregnant once ?

What are you talking about?  In your initial post you said "the last two times I was pregnant..."