emotionsmessmeup Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Ok in brief... me and my fwb started hooking up in Jan 05. i asked him for a relationship in april and he didnt want one..He is 10 years older.. we kept hooking up till october...then on his b;day i saw him make out with another girl.... and it bothered me..and i told him so... we didnt hook up after that..but we kept hanging out as friends...in groups...he lives 5 blocks away.... I had left my shoes at his place...and once when i called him...asking if i cud get them..he left them at concierge...so i picked em up and told him thank u.... and then he was going for a international trip and he met me the night before....we went for a drive coz he needed to pick up some stuff from another friends place... on the way back i simply asked him to drop me to my car...and before leaving...the HUG was full of sparks.....he kissed me on the cheek... then on his month long tour...he didnt call..until the day he was comming back..he needed a ride from the airport... when i dropped him home he asked if i am comming upstairs and i said no. But now I am moving out of the country and he called and asked ... are u seriously leaving...are u sure.... take me along also plz...just as a friend i guess... then he says lets go to hawaii and honeymoon... do u think he wants to do me...coz he was good in bed...and i am leaving the country anyway..lol...no harm...
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted January 15, 2006 Author Posted January 15, 2006 ok....I know no one responded.. but last night in a drunk state i sent him a text saying... "you are so selfish. its always about you n your needs. you dont care about the other persons desires or needs...you may have never done me wrong , but you have neevr done me right....i hate you with passion" MANNNNNNNN.........What was i thinking.... i wrote that to my fwb...GOOD LORD! I would seriously appreciate a response.
slubberdegullion Posted January 15, 2006 Posted January 15, 2006 I think you may be confusing your current FWB situation with some sort of deeper relationship. By definition, a FWB relationship isn't supposed to have all the drama and emotions of a mutually-agreeable commitment to one another. Frankly, I wouldn't be surprised if he just went NC on you entirely for last night's drunken text message. Then again, maybe he has enough grace to just let it slide; I don't know. Regardless, if you're interested in maintaining the FWB relationship, I'd suggest that you back off the emotional stuff. But if you want to get more involved with him, you may have a tough go of it. He doesn't seem really ready for that. Good luck!
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted January 15, 2006 Author Posted January 15, 2006 technically we are no longer fwbs....we are just friends.. i hvnt been sleeping with him for past 2-3 months... since i caught him with the other woman. there are supposed to be no dramas...but he still wants a trip to ny (without the sex). he still wants to call (without the sex). He wants me to pick him from the airport (without the sex). wtf!
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 OK.... he actually called...! n askedhow was last nite... n i told him i was mad drunk... he said.. no wonder u sent me stupid text messages.. i didnt say anything.. we taled generally for a bit then he said he'll call later.. wtf!!!!
In Sync Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Wow, forget his actions and examine yours. Here's what this means.... you are so willing to devalue yourself for the sake of what...not even getting laid, just to be with him? He already is using you as his chauffeur and now he wants you as his tour guide...and you seriously think this guy wants marriage. You've already portrayed yourself as ridiculous by texting him a dumb message and by waiting for whatever bits he tosses at you...AND he's still messing around with other women...get real!..look, find some pride and leave this guy alone.
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