TheRock Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 1st a brief RECAP... Dating girl for 1 month 1-2 times\week. Things going great, then no dates after I sent her an email, in which I made a possibly offensive joke on Wednesday the 4th... On Wednesday the 4th, she was calling me mid day to say hi and talk, emailng me, etc. throughout the day and discussed going out Friday night the 6th. My one email that day may have been sexually offensive. Might've been too soon to joke about sex. By Friday I hadn't heard from her, called and apologized for the joke. She texted me that she became sick with the flu and couldn't go out. I called again Sun. to see how she felt and left a VM. She sent me an text on Mon. the 9th thanking me and said she was feeling a little better. I said glad to hear you're feeling better. On Tuesday the 10th, Lisa sent me a text saying "Hi, Sorry I haven't called. Just been very busy. Will call U tonight after work." (SHE IS A VERY BUSY PERSON, A Workaholic who works 7a-7p and goes to a side job a few nights and on the weekend, but it only takes a minute for an email or call.) By Thursday I still hadn't heard from her, so I sent an email titled "My Last E-mail". I was giving her a last chance to come clean on what was going on OR bow out easily... In brief, it said I said I hadn't heard from her. I apologized for the joke, breifly explained I was having a crappy week and it bled over into the email. I told her how I felt about the times we went out and how I liked her, felt a connection and thought we had a lot in common. (Last Wednesday she was looking foward to Snowboarding with me and teaching me how to play guitar, etc...she was excited and interested...) I also said that I don't date people who are late for dates (which she was) or don't return calls\emails, etc. within 24-48 hours. Told her I thought it was rude and it's one of my rules, but I had given her a chance and had gone out with her again anyway and hoped she'd do the same. I said I haven't heard from u and can't tell if you're really busy, playing hard to get or just not interested. Lastly, I said I hope I hear from you. If not, I guess we'll just be friends and go our separate ways. I'll just assume you're not interested, don't want to bother you and won't attempt to contact you again. Good Luck in the future. This gave her an easy out if she wanted... HERE'S THE KICKER!!!! She E-mailed me back instantly:: "WOW....my sincere apologies for not getting back to you...seriously, my life is soo hectic....lately business has become first- I cant help that..I am the most determined person you will ever know..pls dont be mad or hurt- yes I want to see you...just be patient- pls. we will have time- i will make time...i just get pulled left and right.. I cant really talk much while at work nor comment on everything you wrote to me, but I will call you.. I sooo promise!" HER REPLY SOUNDED GOOD... But...I was with a mutual friend today and he said he talked to her LAST week (when she was calling & emailing me and wanting to be with me) and she said there wasn't any chemistry. (I still think my joke offended her) (Hard to be yourself and have chemistry when you're mad someone is late for a date without calling and you try not to show it). Our friend had tried to date Lisa a few years ago and they just remained friends. I don't know who to believe... She could have not answered my email at all (BUT DID INSTANTLY AND CONVINCINGLY), or could have just said she wanted to be friends and didn't feel any chemistry. IS SHE REALLY INTERESTED, BUT BUSY? IS MY FRIEND JUST JEALOUS AND MAKING IT UP? OR IS SHE LEADING ME ON???
cygny Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 she is more interested in you now that you've shown some spine than she was last week when you kept apologizing and begging to see her. that's the short answer.
Author TheRock Posted January 13, 2006 Author Posted January 13, 2006 What do should I do now? My next move???
Touche Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 In my opinion, you don't have a next move. The next move should be hers. I mean read her email. Did you respond to it?
whichwayisup Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 You have been very honest with her and that is great. She seemed to have been quite honest too, explaining herself and letting you know she IS interested. The thing is, that friend, COULD be putting their own spin on what THEY think. Don't listen to that friend, listen to her. Hey, you were upfront and basically put alot out there. IF she wasn't interested at all, I would hope that she'd have the balls to tell you that. But, her email back to you was positive. So, again, do not listen to the friend...Jealous friend indeed.
cygny Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 In my opinion' date=' you don't have a next move. The next move should be hers. I mean read her email. Did you respond to it?[/quote'] i agree. she said she would call you.
Art_Critic Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 If this is the same girl that you started all the other threads about in the last week then you need to flat out move on.. If she is seeing any of your needy behavior then that is why she isn't interested.. A woman will let her man know if she is interested.. cetainly after you have been dating.. Quit making excuses about her working.. she isn't interested in you.. and no it wasn't the joke.. Sometimes people just don't click after they start to get to know each other..
Author TheRock Posted January 14, 2006 Author Posted January 14, 2006 I replied to her email and said I was: Thanks for getting back to me. I'm happy you did. I wasn't mad or hurt... Just a little disappointed\confused. I couldn't figure out if you were playing hard to get all of a sudden, really busy, or just not interested anymore. Didn't want to keep calling you if you weren't interested or be a pain if you were busy. One of the things I admire about you IS the fact that you are a go-getter. I respect that and know what it's like to be that busy. I want to see you succeed and don't want to get in the way of your dreams. I don't require much. Just a call once in a while and if I ask you out, that you get back to me so I can confirm my schedule for the rest of the week. I'm very busy but sometimes I can shift things around. Just on my way to a meeting now. Call me when you can. I left it at that. Don't plan to call her anymore. It's in her court...
cygny Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 just an innocent question---why did you go and ruin it?
Art_Critic Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 One thing for sure is that the email you wrote is oozing of neediness.. If neediness was what you were trying to show her.. you did a great job.. If you email her or contact her anymore you might as well say I'm psycho.. You have only had a few dates with her in a month.. it was you that said 1-2 a week for a month.. that is about 2-4 dates... and by the tone of the email you sound like you have been dating for 3-6 months..
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