PlentyLV007 Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 I've been out of the game for a while....Not a while, but not really dated anybody that I wanted to take seriously. I usually just went out , went with it for a couple of weeks maybe and got bored and moved on. I'm a day to day person....Live each day to the fullest. Now I like this one guy who came out of no where.... we get along great, have great converstaions and I'm just me. Now we've been seeing each other for about a month next week. Now we've messed around but, not had intercourse yet. I'm ready though just waiting for the right time, when we are both not rushed especially because he works on call. We get a long great. I want to know..... What makes a guy get butterflies? Guys .....Fill me in!
slubberdegullion Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 First of all, what do you mean by "the right time"? What may be self-evident to you may not be to him. Secondly, if you really want to give a guy butterflies, bj's work. sorry, couldn't resist *ahem* Be clear. Don't play games. Playing "hard to get" is a sign of immaturity, and does nothing for a quality guy. Don't be afraid to be somewhat aggressive. Tell him what you like and don't like (especially in bed). And have fun! Sex is supposed to be fun, not something you brood about. Use protection, obviously, too.
Author PlentyLV007 Posted January 13, 2006 Author Posted January 13, 2006 That reply was great! Hilarious! Funny though because he does look forward to that and I love it!!! So I guess we both are happy! Your right about being honest....I'm very forward, very blunt and appereantly I was too much at a time. I told him that his foreplay wasn't good. It's not just about eating the cookie either, I'm talking about aggressive rubbing, touching, kissing, sucking... You know....he doesn't do that for me....I told him and he got upset. He said I aggitated him. I mean....was I too forward or was he just aggitated that I was honest about it. I'm sure nobody wants to hear they are bad at something sexual. I mean I'm open to it! Funny....how you stated to be honest and be aggressive (sexually) and not to play games. So is that it guys????? Just the sex??? Anything else???
slubberdegullion Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 Well, there are a couple of different ways to approach it when showing your man what you like. The Wrong Way What are you doing? That sucks. No, over to the left. Not THAT far, you a**h***! Harder. Yes. Harder. NOT THAT HARD! Jeezuz, did you fail at this in school or something? The Better Way Ooo baby, yes. Just a little to the left... ahhh yess... oh damnnn... mmmm... now a little higher... oh... YES... oh gawd... oh yea... put your finger there... oh baybeeee... oh yess... now stroke... oh gawd ya..... I think you get the picture. There's more, obviously, far removed from the bedroom. Flirt with him. Kiss him in public. Whisper naughty things in his ear. Most of all, show him that you respect him, you trust him, you care about him, and you love being with him. Duzzat help?
Author PlentyLV007 Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 Helps very much!!! It would help even more if I could do it in person right? Last time I saw him was about a week ago and it's mostly my fault, I'm just tired of him always expecting to get his every time we see each other. I mean he text me all the time, Calls! Says "hey, what's up?" and "Good night" and it's cute and all....but, I want to go out and do stuff! Not just BJ's and all that other naughty stuff...(wink wink*) which I do enjoy...I also want some quality time. Sat night he text me "If only I can c u" at 3:30am .... Sunday I text him....he didn't reply until 11:pm saying he didn't have his phone on him. Is he just keeping me on the back burner!?
cygny Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 hmmm.... 3:30 am ??? I was told that is called a 'booty call'--- i think it sounds like you want to date a little, be taken out. Have it be more of a relationship. If so, stand your ground, girl!
Author PlentyLV007 Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 How can I put it out there when he text me? Should I just ignore him? Cause he text me like every day..."hey" you know BS TEXT...does he want me to initiate it? I'm trying to even think if it's worth it...I mean if I've already had to tell him c'mon do a little more foreplay and then...that text at 3am....man oh man...(slapping myself) c'mon!!!! Right...?!
cygny Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 I think your instincts are great. Make him do the chasing. He knows you are interested.
slubberdegullion Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 I think your instincts are great. Make him do the chasing. He knows you are interested. Sorry, cygny, I don't buy the "make him chase her" thing. A quality dude won't bother chasing someone who never initiates. 50/50 makes much more sense for both parties.
Author PlentyLV007 Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 Okay!!!! Help me out...I know he knows I'm intereted and I'm sure pushing my buttons to see what he can get...so I've never been the one to have someone chase after it because if I want it too then....I'll just take it. I do like him and he knows it, but I'm not going to be at someone's beck and call for some booty! I want to be taken seriously....plus I like him...he's funny! So how does the whole chasing thing work? I've done most of the chasing in my days....I'm very aggressive and if I want something then I just go after it, but with this one it's like he's trying to get what he can get....! C'mon peeps ....help me out here! 1
cygny Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Okay!!!! Help me out...I know he knows I'm intereted and I'm sure pushing my buttons to see what he can get...so I've never been the one to have someone chase after it because if I want it too then....I'll just take it. I do like him and he knows it, but I'm not going to be at someone's beck and call for some booty! I want to be taken seriously....plus I like him...he's funny! So how does the whole chasing thing work? I've done most of the chasing in my days....I'm very aggressive and if I want something then I just go after it, but with this one it's like he's trying to get what he can get....! C'mon peeps ....help me out here! this is easier than falling off a chair, girl! you just bat your eyelashes, wink, and wait for him to ask you out. that's it. that's all there is to it.
luvtoto Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 The Wrong Way What are you doing? That sucks. No, over to the left. Not THAT far, you a**h***! Harder. Yes. Harder. NOT THAT HARD! Jeezuz, did you fail at this in school or something? :lmao:
Author PlentyLV007 Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 He usually text me....so he can't see me do the whole eye thing! I don't usually play the whole dog and cat chase thing...that is why I asked if I should just ask him out....again....he's asked me when I can c him again...but I just kinda brushed it off cause for the past 2-3 times we've seen each other he expects some lovin....under the jeans you know..... yet he just lays there and takes it like a champ! I mean c'mon.... That is why I've had to tell him to work at it...that is why he got upset...now...he recently asked me if we weren't going to play anymore.... I mean I love to play...but I also want to be taken care of and taken seriously..... how can I change it up!?
cygny Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 think of him as a hungry animal. and you are the bait. so make the bait look tastey and juicey. 1
Author PlentyLV007 Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 I've already done that...how do you think we've gotten oraly busy?!? I just want him to take me more seriously than just that! If I wanted a booty I'd get one...I've done 2 years of booty calls and yet the first guy I actually like just sees me as a booty call!? Dammm is that Karma or what?
cygny Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 He usually text me....so he can't see me do the whole eye thing! I don't usually play the whole dog and cat chase thing...that is why I asked if I should just ask him out....again....he's asked me when I can c him again...but I just kinda brushed it off cause for the past 2-3 times we've seen each other he expects some lovin....under the jeans you know..... yet he just lays there and takes it like a champ! I mean c'mon.... That is why I've had to tell him to work at it...that is why he got upset...now...he recently asked me if we weren't going to play anymore.... I mean I love to play...but I also want to be taken care of and taken seriously..... how can I change it up!? well, i don't think he is going to take you out like you want him to if you ask HIM out, see? because...well....why should he? if you are already doing him? and asking him out? what would be the point? that is not how chasing works, unless you want to chase him, then by all means go ahead--but he won't chase you then because he doesn't have to.
cygny Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 I've already done that...how do you think we've gotten oraly busy?!? I just want him to take me more seriously than just that! If I wanted a booty I'd get one...I've done 2 years of booty calls and yet the first guy I actually like just sees me as a booty call!? Dammm is that Karma or what? okay you are juicy and tasty but if you want to get the animal to do what you want you don't throw the steak in his mouth until he's performed the specific trick you had in mind, ya know?
Author PlentyLV007 Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 So I guess all I can say is next?!....Well at least someone that is going to take me more seriously....Dammm..... I didn't think it was wrong if I wanted too...I mean I did! That's one of my other problems...I'm a big giver but, because I like it....yet when I told him he doesn't do nothing for me, he said he was sorry and was just taken advantage of a good thing! I mean you would think, he would want to make me happy too right? Then he told me "don't ask for it"....yet all I was asking for was more and different foreplay!? Yet so far....nothing....then of course that's all he wants to do when we hook up...I mean so do I....but, dammm I'm a fun person, why wouldn't he want to hang out with me!? Then let's get our freak on...! I have no problem with that!!? Move one? Next? Lost cause isn't it?
cygny Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 How can I put it out there when he text me? Should I just ignore him? Cause he text me like every day..."hey" you know BS TEXT...does he want me to initiate it? I'm trying to even think if it's worth it...I mean if I've already had to tell him c'mon do a little more foreplay and then...that text at 3am....man oh man...(slapping myself) c'mon!!!! Right...?! be flirty and seductive... don't text back at night...and avoid telling him to do things...you have to be more indirect if you want him to chase you...
cygny Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 So I guess all I can say is next?!....Well at least someone that is going to take me more seriously....Dammm..... I didn't think it was wrong if I wanted too...I mean I did! That's one of my other problems...I'm a big giver but, because I like it....yet when I told him he doesn't do nothing for me, he said he was sorry and was just taken advantage of a good thing! I mean you would think, he would want to make me happy too right? Then he told me "don't ask for it"....yet all I was asking for was more and different foreplay!? Yet so far....nothing....then of course that's all he wants to do when we hook up...I mean so do I....but, dammm I'm a fun person, why wouldn't he want to hang out with me!? Then let's get our freak on...! I have no problem with that!!? Move one? Next? Lost cause isn't it? NEVER take it personally when a guy just wants booty...they are thinking with their 'other' head...but that is why you hold back with the booty until you go out a few times, they start to like you because they have to talk to you with their 'upper' head, lol...
Author PlentyLV007 Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 That's the thing....I know he likes, me but it's like dammm...HELLO MCFLY...I want to hang out, laugh and not just on the phone when we talk....but out in public....Pool, dinner, and I try to avoid going out to a friend pub or two cause that just get's me introuble especially when I'm really attracted to him. That's the hard part.....so I honestly feel that movies are over rated....now next time he tells me he wants to c me...I'll just say.."what did you have in mind other than your house or mine?" right? Cause we need to get out.....even thought we have seen each other like 4 times and we are just all over each other....dammm it's hard! I just want to eat him up....! (think...think) Sometimes I feel like I have another head down there too!
cygny Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 That's the thing....I know he likes, me but it's like dammm...HELLO MCFLY...I want to hang out, laugh and not just on the phone when we talk....but out in public....Pool, dinner, and I try to avoid going out to a friend pub or two cause that just get's me introuble especially when I'm really attracted to him. That's the hard part.....so I honestly feel that movies are over rated....now next time he tells me he wants to c me...I'll just say.."what did you have in mind other than your house or mine?" right? Cause we need to get out.....even thought we have seen each other like 4 times and we are just all over each other....dammm it's hard! I just want to eat him up....! (think...think) Sometimes I feel like I have another head down there too! good start!!--better yet, just leave it at "so...what did you have in mind, then?" everything needs to be said with a smile on your face and a twinkle in your eye...lol.. if he says your house, then you say ''hmmmmmm...well, i think i'll pass then...gotta run now, i've got plans, see ya..'' smile and flutter eyelashes when you do it, it puts you in the right frame of mind, lol. be "bait". don't lose your cool if he gets perturbed or drops you for awhile, he's trying to see if he can hook ya in, it;s called the dating 'game' for a reason, girl! you have to develop some skill at flirting and self-control, lol..
Author PlentyLV007 Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 Hmmmm it seems, that he's already played that game with me already once or twice.....when I told him about him not doing some stuff right...he said he was agittated and said he'd call me later and hung up on me. I was like what???! Then the next day he said ...sorry...I was heated...... I really do hate playing games...drives me crazy!!!! So I guess if he doesn't call after that, then just (singing) moving on up.....to the east side..... Dammmm I really actually liked this guy!
cygny Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 ooh ouch girl--yes you have got to avoid telling a guy what to do...I know we are trained to be all assertive and direct and everything but it just doesn't work with these sexy guys...they can't take it...practice being indirect and seductive instead--frame things positively, like its a compliment even though you are really getting them to do something differently--it's an entirely different skill... but no matter...moving on up is a great song...even if mr scrumptious is still hanging around, the more you are out and about the better, you get the best of both worlds, you have more fun and give him a little competition , lol
Author PlentyLV007 Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 I thought that honesty was better? I mean I don't get anything by lying!? Especially in the sheets! His 4play did suck! I know I made a mistake by how I came off saying he sucked....but I believe that the only person who ends up loosing is me if I lie about sexual pleasures in the bedroom! I mean I don't tell him what to do about when he goes out, or who he goes out with. I mean we don't even talk about what we did during the weekend....or who we were with. I asked him if he cared who I was with intimately...he said no. He said "what I don't know won't hurt me". Ouch right? He said I would like you less but, what you do is your buisness. To me I think that if your being intimate with me...I want to know who else too! Do i?
Recommended Posts