I Need to Know !

[is-it-me1983]

To begin me and my fiance have been together for almost 8 years now. When we first got together I had been in a bad relationship and had been married to him for 18 yrs. We had split up but I still had to live in the same house because I didn't have the money to get a place of my own, not to mention I had always been with men.

My ex husband and I and my now fiance were all friends but with her being a little younger and her life being different we had not seen her for a few years. One day she messaged me and wanted to see how we were and wanted to hang out. The first time I saw her again was like love at first site which I had never experienced before, nor had I ever been attracted to another woman either.

Well 1 thing led to another and now here we are. I wont lie we have been through hell in the beginning, 1 reason is my ex husband and him lying to my son about me and her. When I say we've been through hell I mean I almost lost my son who wasn't speaking to me at the time because of my ex husband to me losing my oldest sister to cancer , then I went to jail for almost a year and.

Mind you my son in 2019 had something happen and he now has brain damage and I take care of him 24/7.

Lets fast forward some my fiance got a new job in July and I would say the past couple months has really been different. she doesn't have anything to do with me physically and if so its not anything like it used to be. she is always making excuses , like I'm tired or I need a shower and usually she makes them a quickie.. We had a very great sex life before and I mean all the time. Now she rarely acts like she wants to touch me.

I lost my mother in February and I am honestly not dealing with it well and it seems like she tries to avoid any interaction or conversation with me . She has really been different towards my son and has even said things she really shouldn't have said even if she feels that way. Me and my son both are disabled. When I do try to spend time with her she is always trying to do something else or says she is tired. Granted she works over night but still she can do other things or go and do things instead of sleeping. She makes a lot of excuses whenever I need her  even if its just to talk to her. She has also told me about this girl who comes in the store where she works and is being very persistent about wanting to be with her.

Why did all this happen , is she seeing someone else??I NEED HELP!! 

Edited May 22 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[LAspen]

Your story looks pretty intricate, without many details. Therefore, it is very difficult to give advice that will help change your life for the better. However, it is quite obvious that your fiance is gradually checking out of the relationship. It's unclear if this is because she started having feelings for someone else, or if she just doesn't like monogamy and committed relationships. In any case, you need to have a serious and frank conversation with her about your relationship and the future. But most likely, you need to be prepared for her to leave. I am so sorry.