Anon345 Posted May 19 Posted May 19 So I have a boyfriend who I’ve dated for 6 months now, we are really close and see each otheralmost everyday. Or each others birthdays and Christmas we bought each other loads, he buys meflowers all the time and pays for my food, but I think I’m just not that into it all anymore. I’m young(18) and want to be free. I feel really guilty because I have feelings for other guys and have acted onthem before but I feel like I can’t break up with him because he’s so in love and obsessed with me(he’s wanting to get my name tattooed)
Gebidozo Posted May 19 Posted May 19 OP, just show your boyfriend what you wrote here. I assure you that once he knows that you have feelings for other guys and have acted upon them, he’ll break up with you himself.
stillafool Posted May 19 Posted May 19 Please don't let that poor boy get your name tattooed on him when you don't want him. Tell him now. He will be sad but will respect your honesty. If he catches you with one of the other guys you like he's going to lose all respect for you and hate you. There is no harm in having a change of mind or feelings as long as you are honest with the other person. They will be sad but the truth will help them heal faster.
ShyViolet Posted May 20 Posted May 20 12 hours ago, Anon345 said: but I feel like I can’t break up with him because he’s so in love and obsessed with me(he’s wanting to get my name tattooed) How does this make any sense? You freely admit you are not into him anymore and want out of the relationship, but you feel like you can't break up with him just because HE is obsessed with you? That's not a valid reason to stay in a relationship. Get out of this relationship NOW before this guy gets any more obsessed with you than he already is. You don't owe anyone to stay with them when it's not what you want. You never stay in a relationship that you don't want to be in just to avoid hurting the other person's feelings. You're going to have to hurt his feelings and that's just unavoidable. Never, ever waste your time with the wrong person. 1
Sanch62 Posted May 22 Posted May 22 On 5/19/2025 at 8:19 PM, ShyViolet said: How does this make any sense? You freely admit you are not into him anymore and want out of the relationship, but you feel like you can't break up with him just because HE is obsessed with you? That's not a valid reason to stay in a relationship. Get out of this relationship NOW before this guy gets any more obsessed with you than he already is. You don't owe anyone to stay with them when it's not what you want. You never stay in a relationship that you don't want to be in just to avoid hurting the other person's feelings. You're going to have to hurt his feelings and that's just unavoidable. Never, ever waste your time with the wrong person. I agree. When I was your age, OP, I stayed in a relationship too long. I became depressed, but I didn't know how to get out of it because I thought I needed a better reason than, "I'm not happy being committed anymore, and I want to break up." It's best to learn early that it's common for relationships to end, and part of maturity is learning how to end a relationship that isn't right for you. Do some research or speak with a counselor at school if you need help. (I wish I had the Internet when I went through this.) Write more if it helps.
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