caring guy Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 Hi all Me again. I guess you all know of my situation with the girl i met & the 1st 3 days were so fast & intense. Feeling like we knew each other so well, sex, intimacy etc. We cooled things off & we do have feelings for each other, we see each other a couple of times a week & even though it's simmered to more close friends, there's still the odd kiss, cuddle, holding etc! & i see in her eyes, in her actions that she's closer to me now. It's like when there's no 'definates' or when it least seems like anything serious will happen, all of a sudden it might, outa the blue! I'm going abroad with her on Sunday to visit her homeland & i guess we will get closer, maybe not intimately, but emotionaly & we'll know each other more. I'm definately falling for her, but i am that kind. I don't know how inside she is feeling as she is the kind that hates talking about the future, just likes to go with it & what will be, will be, so i don't question her on that score! Thing is, in February, she will be moving south to work as she came to England to do this particular job to earn good money, to pay off debts etc! I'm not sure what will happen, how we will be! Lots of scenarios can happen between now & then. I respect her for wanting this & would feel bad to try make her stay, i just need advice for preparing myself for that dreaded day on my selfish behalf when she will go! Who knows, lots of water shall go under the bridge between now & then! Maybe she'll feel for me then what i hope she will, but it will be very emotional & heartbraking & i just need advice on how to cope in these situations, anybody experienced this kind of situation. Regards cg
LN8840K Posted January 14, 2006 Posted January 14, 2006 enjoy the time you have and don't worry about whats to come it all works out in the end
Author caring guy Posted January 14, 2006 Author Posted January 14, 2006 Hi LN8840K, Yes i'm sure we'll enjoy the time, i will still have this little thing at the back of my mind about becoming closer to her & then her going away! It's like i'm working myself up for the big fall, not being sure wether to pull away now & avoid pain in the future, by denying oneself what could be a great time & who knows, what maybe a possible relationship! I think too much, instead of just going with it! It's happened before to me, like when i meet someone i fall for, they leave me, not because they don't like me, but because they have to, or just not intimate feelings & it's gradualy making me harder, not willing to believe i have a future with anybody, like i'm destined to be alone & not take things as seriously as i do, which probably isn't a bad thing! I guess love will come my way when i least expect it & so could be true here! cg
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