nilynn Posted May 15 Posted May 15 So, met this incredible guy last week on OLD. Wasn’t expecting a great connection, but he popped up and we started a convo. Went on a date two days after matching (Friday), had a great time. The date even moved to a second location, to keep the night going. He texted me immediately after getting home, and we had good conversation for the next few days, him initiating often. Then I invite him over to my place to watch a movie on Tuesday (made him aware me inviting him wasn’t a booty call situation), but we just end up talking the whole time. Didn’t kiss, because I’m awkward and was still nervous. Text him after, saying I was sorry for not taking the opportunity to touch and cuddle up and he says it’s okay, but it’s not like he wasn’t thinking about it. As he left my apartment, he said let’s do something this weekend. Now today is Thursday, and I’m totally aware I’m probably overthinking this. But yesterday and today’s convo has slowed down quite a bit. I even gave him until 10am and I had to be the one who texted this morning, while before he was reaching out first in the morning. He even mentioned that he didn’t have any other dates or people he was talking to outside of me, and seems like a genuine dude. Maybe I’m just a sucker. Don’t want to be overbearing, so I’m trying to leave time inbetween his texts and my reply but it’s hard when you like someone. I’m trying to stay sane, and think reasonably, he’s probably busy but can’t help to worry that he’s “slow fading” just need someone to talk about it to, before I go insane haha
Sony12 Posted May 17 Posted May 17 (edited) Usually when things are first starting out a change in communication patterns often means a change in interest levels. While he may have said the right things he did however start acting differently towards you after he didn't get any sex when he was over at your place. A key thing to remember is actions always speak much louder than words. Many people just say what they think the other person wants to hear but their actions will tell you how they really feel. Edited May 17 by Sony12
Sanch62 Posted May 17 Posted May 17 Hyper communication is common when people first hit it off, but the real world must enter that bubble and break it at some point. I don't know of anyone who can realistically keep up the kind of messaging they pulled off while first matching. Pull back a bit and let the guy show you whether he's on for the weekend date or not.
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