wyldflower Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 When I first posted the "Got My Man" post, amidst a series of negative comments was a snide one about coming back in 2 months and saying it's till all good. Well, it has been 2 months, we are going stronger than ever, are joined at the hip and are so in love. It's wonderful. He and W are in process of getting divorce and organising access with kids through the courts. Everything is amicable, everyone is as happy as the situation allows. So, bring on the negativity and cautions for concerns or be happy for us. I don't mind either way. I know where I'm at.
honeybee Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 I am glad to see you are happy. The two of you were obviously meant for each other. A few years ago I met a man in a chat room on the internet. I had been separated from my husband for 3 years at the time and was waiting on my divorce to be final. This man and I became friends and chatted daily online. Right from the start, he was expressing how unhappy and unfulfilled he was in his marriage and how he wanted to leave the marriage but naturally being the honorable man that he is he found it very difficult to leave her because of the pain it would inflict on her. Before long we fell madly inlove with each other. We just had alot in common and there clearly was chemistry between us. We talked about how nice it would be to be married to each other and share the rest of our lives together. After four months of chatting on the internet, we had only spoken once on the phone, he told me that he was going to leave his wife in January. (not to spoil her Christmas) He told me this in late November. We were both very excited about the idea of being together. Well, January came and went and he could not do it and need more time. As you can imagine, I grew very upset and told him, if you truly love me and want us to have a life together, then you do what you have to do to get me. I had sent that to him in an email. There was no response and I had not heard a thing from him. I know this probably sounds silly, but I was deeply hurt and depressed constantly thinking about the future we both dreamed of. I cried for months missing him terribly. I prayed for God to give me strength to get over him. It took a LONG time to heal. He truly seemed like the most perfect man in the world to me. Finally a year later, the pain was subsiding, but still, I don't think a day went by where I did not think about him. About 4 months after that, I received an email from him. I could NOT believe it. I was shaking with excitment. His email simply asked how I had been doing and asked if I had anyone special in my life. I can tell you that was one of the happiest days of my life. He had separated from his wife, and had filed for divorce and had come back to me. I simply could not believe it was actually happening. We have now been together for 5 years and VERY happily married for 3. I have never been so happy and content in my life. I have teenage daughters from my previous marriage and we have a 2 year old son together. (he had not children from his previous marriage) ... This man was obviously true to his word and we obviously were meant to be together.
Sami_D Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 Well that's so great to read TWO positive stories in one thread. It's not all doom and gloom, then. Congratulations to both of you.
newbby Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 congrats to you both. i like stories with happy endings.
Astarte Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 I am happy for you !! Very !! Sounds great...
lilmoma1973 Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 Congrats glad it all worked out for you!! Keep us posted as to the happiness and how things are going with it all...
Fiesta Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 Glad to hear it worked for you! You raise a valid point--there's so much negativity on these forums about being the OW/M, or being involved with one. I'm surprised anyone feels comfortable discussing their problems here. Post back with more positive news; it's rare here, and a delight to read.
Brittanyjean06 Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 I love reading about happy stories- and exciting werid ones - there should always be good threads on here it holds hope for all of us- not for the ex thouggh
I was the OW Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 When I first posted the "Got My Man" post, amidst a series of negative comments was a snide one about coming back in 2 months and saying it's till all good. Well, it has been 2 months, we are going stronger than ever, are joined at the hip and are so in love. It's wonderful. He and W are in process of getting divorce and organising access with kids through the courts. Everything is amicable, everyone is as happy as the situation allows. So, bring on the negativity and cautions for concerns or be happy for us. I don't mind either way. I know where I'm at. I don't mean to be negative but try not to get your hopes up. My MM was also going through a D, going through court for child support and visitations. We were finally together and we were so happy and in love. He even talked about getting M but I didn't want to. I just ended my previous M to be with the MM. I didn't want to get remarried as I had two failed M before, didn't want another one. We were so happy together. His W moved away with their children and so we didn't need to hide anymore, it was out that we were involved and could go on with our lives together. Two months after his W moved of town he called me one night and said he wanted to get back with his W! I was hurt, yes but I went on with my life. In fact I started dating a great guy a week later and have been with him for a year. I am so very happy. The last I knew my exMM and his W are still together and he is living with her where she moved to. I would just hate for you to get to settled with the way things are right now. When the D is finally final I think you can have a sigh of relief but for now, stay on your toes as he may just go back to his W.
luvtoto Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 everyone is as happy as the situation allows. *Everyone* is happy? Even the x-wife? I feel kind of sorry for her. Sorry, but I am on 'Team Aniston'. Just a figure of speech.
Author wyldflower Posted January 18, 2006 Author Posted January 18, 2006 Maybe it's just me, but I would be much happier if I was no longer in a relationship where i new the man wasn't in love with me and fought daily. Things aren't always black and white or "Jolie" and "Aniston" - last I heard she was happy with Vince Vaughan anyway. People can't be owned. Not everything can be put into categories.
Author wyldflower Posted January 18, 2006 Author Posted January 18, 2006 Sorry, hate typos - the perfectionist in me must say "where I KNEW the man wasn't in love with me...."
luvtoto Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 People can't be owned. This is a sore subject for me. I was cheated on and left for another woman. You are right people can't be owned. But, there are no guarantees in life. If he can leave her for you...what's stoppin' him from leavin' you for another woman? Hmmm....kinda makes ya think. By the way, she's already cheated on my X...a couple times already....last I heard.
Sami_D Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 If he can leave her for you...what's stoppin' him from leavin' you for another woman? Well, nothing. That's the point. Nothing can stop people leaving if the relationship has died and they really want to get away. All the more reason to work on relationships I suppose.
Author wyldflower Posted January 19, 2006 Author Posted January 19, 2006 You're right, Sami. So right. My relationship with him carries the same risk as any other relationship. Who's to say that if I'd fallen in love and started a relationship with a single man, that he would be any less likely to leave. As it happens, I don't let fear take the wheel and drive. I'm open to it all, the love, the happiness, the heartache, whatever it brings. I'm with him now and I'm a happy happy girl.
gevoraksix Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 QUOTE=wyldflower]When I first posted the "Got My Man" post, amidst a series of negative comments was a snide one about coming back in 2 months and saying it's till all good. Well, it has been 2 months, we are going stronger than ever, are joined at the hip and are so in love. It's wonderful. He and W are in process of getting divorce and organising access with kids through the courts. Everything is amicable, everyone is as happy as the situation allows. So, bring on the negativity and cautions for concerns or be happy for us. I don't mind either way. I know where I'm at. good luck !!!
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