fusion324 Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 I'm 21 and my gf is 22, and we are both in our first real relationship and we are both virgins. We've known each other for 7 months and have been dating for 1, and so far we've had really good make out sessions but I want to know how to get farther. She lets me feel around (nothing below the waist yet) but whats the next step and how do I go about it getting it w/o seeming greedy. I just want to please her more but I just need some advice on how I could gradually do this. And our clothes have always stayed on at this point...just to help you guys know where I'm at. Any advice would be appreciated.
bluetuesday Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 greedy? i'd be surprised if she thought that. more likely she's waiting for you to make a move and is posting on another forum a thread entitled 'frustrated with waiting for him to make the next move'. okay, bear in mind there are no hard and fast rules for things like this and it has only been a month. to some people, particularly those charting new territory with a physical relationship, that might not be very long at all. hell, to me it's not very long and i'm an old hand. the only vague rule is this. if she lets you do it and you want to, then it's okay. if she pulls away and/or cools down, you've pushed your luck and it's backfired. but there'll be a next time. fusion, you're dating this girl so she clearly likes you in that way. unless you've got vows to remain virgins until you marry, what you're building up to is probably sex at some point. and obviously you're not going to get there unless there's a little progress from kissing and holding hands. you have two choices. ask her how far she wants to go, or show her how far you want to go. if it's the latter, here are some thoughts. next time you're making out, put your hand on the inside of her knee and start sliding it upwards. either she'll open her legs to let you, or she'll push your hand away or try to divert your attention. if she reacts negatively, it's too soon. but trying too soon is sooooo not a big deal to most girls. she'll probably be delighted you want her, even if the answer's 'no, not yet'. or do this. start kissing her neck and slowly make your way lower until you can't get any lower without opening the buttons on her blouse and see what happens. or if you've already enjoyed external 'feels', something as simple as sliding your hand under her top, without trying to remove it (the top that is, not your hand) might be fine. any skin on skin contact is a step in the right direction. and if you're feeling really brave, you could whisper in her ear about where you'd most like to be touched. or whisper and guide her hand there at the same time.
Author fusion324 Posted January 13, 2006 Author Posted January 13, 2006 thanks for the advice.....anyone else?
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